It's my brothers 25th wedding anniversary during half term. It's an afternoon party at a lovely hotel (afternoon tea) about 15 miles away. My 3 DSC will be staying with us. Children aren't invited. DSC are 12,14 & 16. My 14 and his resident 18yr old will be around.
DH loves my brother and SIL. but won't come as 'I won't leave the children unsupervised' .... I am spitting feathers, FFS they are not toddlers..and won't evaporate if left alone for 4 hrs.
He doesn't give a second thought to my DD 14 being left alone - to be fair neither do I - as she is 14 !!!!!!!. I even offered to get my eldest DD back from Uni to babysit, but that is not acceptable either because she will only 'be in the house' not actually entertaining them and they would be lonely. God give me strength should she be reading them fairy stories. ?
Is it me, am I unreasonable in expecting him to attend an important family event and to expect him to leave the SDC for 4 hrs in the afternoon ?
Btw I am not blaming the children here, their behaviour is difficult to cope with but imho the reason for it is laid squarely at the door of my DH and their DM for the ridiculous mollycoddling.