Help with useless ex!!

[cheekymummy89]

Please someone help me out, my step son comes to stay with us every weekend. We pick him up in the morning and have him until Sunday lunch time. Every rime he comes ours he's always in clothes that are ripped or dirty, hasn't had a wash or brushed his teeth, and just lately he isn't even having breakfast in a morning before coming to us. Now I don't mind changing his clothes etc but for dh ex to not even make sure he's clean or fed worries me. Dh has raised these issues with her several times and she just doesn't respond. She has another child with her current partner but this child is the opposite always clean, can tell she's well looked after, always out with her mum doing things, buying new toys etc. I'm at my wits end nothing we say to her matters. My husband does his best by his son we buy him new clothes all the time, treat him to days out (when we have the money). He's treated no different to mine and dh son. We have another baby on the way and I worry now she's going to get worse. I've told dh he needs go seek advise on this now because it's every week which raises concerns. We see pics on social media and it's the same when he's home so we know she isn't doing it just because he comes our house.
Has anyone dealt with an ex like this that can offer any advise at all??

Tia

[WannaBe]

How is it that your DH hasn't been previously contacted by SS if there is a meeting this week to decide the future of the children? .

[MeridianB]

Well done OP.

Poor DSS. Extra hugs.

[RandomMess]

Your poor DSS

So glad you can go ahead that he is going to be able to come live with you all and presumably very quickly!

[cheekymummy89]

He's here now as we speak .. he cried at home to come and stay here so mum called us and asked would dh come and collect him. Dh has said he doesn't want to send him home now with everything that has gone on today.

[crusoe16]

How is it that your DH hasn't been previously contacted by SS if there is a meeting this week to decide the future of the children?

A few years ago when DH was in court over DSD, Cafcass were called in to prepare an initial report. They contacted SS to see if either parent was known to the agency and it was only then that DH found out SS had been alerted 3 times by school / neighbours to issues with DSD's Mum. He had an SRO and 50:50 at the time and he still hadn't been contacted. It is baffling

Good luck OP...

[cheekymummy89]

Social services did tell dh that there were no issues concerning him and no reports had been made on him. We don't know what the next steps are all we know is there is a meeting with mum tomorrow but dss came here last night and has cried this morning asking can he come again after school. So dh is calling social services this morning to inform them of what's going on. There's something not quite right and dh wants to get to the bottom of it.