Hello,
First time posting here..
I married quite late (48) no children of my own. DH has 2 DS from first marriage and 1 DD from seconds, DS's are in their 30's and DD early 20's - they have only ever been welcoming and lovely to me & I enjoy their company so no problem there. They all live a couple of hours away from us and I see them when they visit or when I go to London, DH often in London & sees them more. The problem is my DH.. It's impossible to have any conversation at all about them without him being incredibly defensive.. For example today he said his DD has got contact lenses.. Great I said, but she needs to really look after them and not fall asleep with them in (she parties pretty hard & quite often crashes at friends homes).. DH jumped down my throat and said how dare I be so hard in his DD etc etc.. this happens anytime I say anything constructive about his children. One of his DS's has a wonderful girlfriend who I think is great for DS, I found out recently that they had a mini break up after a huge row, DH said it had to be the girlfriends faulty as DS couldn't possibly be at fault in any way (in fault DS was way out of line, but they have now worked it out & bank together). He thinks his children are completely faultless in all regards..
I just feel DH expects me to gush and fuss over them in the same way that he does, but the fact is that I met them as adults and therefore treat them as such, and he mostly treats them like small children. It really is beginning to cause a problem, DH is now sulking after I said to him that he needs to stop jumping down my throat anytime we talk about them.
Sorry to ramble on! Thanks for reading.