I'm new to the board, have been loitering since the beginning of the week and have decided to join. I've read lots of threads and while I have a good situation compared to others I've still found it hard to deal with so reading how others are dealing with their situation has made me determined to be a better person.
Let me explain my situation; I was 19 when I met my dh and he came with xp and 2 kids, I was just young, free with no ties and couldn't get to grips with the whole family lark thingy, we had a few run ins with xp but nothing too bad, we have more of a battle with mil (his mother) however 7 years down the line things have changed for the better but sometimes I do still feel the same inside. I'm lucky because my dsk are the best kids, they are very respectful and good kids but sometimes things happen and all those feelings of insecurity come back and it takes a while for me to get those feelings under control.
I hope I'm getting my story across properly, lol, I've never made dsk's feel like they weren't welcome at our house, we're always included them, even when our ds was born 3 years ago, but inside I felt terrible for not wanting it iykwim. Everytime they are at our house we have loads of fun and I'm fun stepmum who spoils them but inside I'm just waiting for when they go back home.
After reading lots of threads on this forum, I know feel terribly guilty for feeling that way, as I said they are great kids and I've no reason to feel this way, and all I wanted was to see dsk and give them a huge hug and we've even arranged for them to stay with us for half term week in February, they live about 250-300 miles away.
You've made me realise that at the end of the day they are just kids and its not their fault, so when they come up I'm gonna enjoy their company and really mean it.
I'm gonna be around from now on as I love this board and I may need your help and support, only with probs from mil, now she is a piece of work.
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year.
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