Maybe I am being unreasonable here but I really have had enough to the point of my marriage of one year (together nearly 7) is suffering. My children and DH children all live with us. Dsc mum sees them one night a week but has offered to have them for 1 week of the easter holidays which coincided with my children going to their dad's for a week. Perfect!
Me and dh made plans to go away for the week, first time ever! Not easy with 6 children FT. Then DH ex phoned up and said "oh I can't have them Sunday or Wednesday night now so I'll pick them up and bring them back the next day." This means we can only go away for 2 days axiom and now have time restrictions either side. I'm upset and angry as I feel time after time this happens and I always come second place. I have an amazing relationship with 2 out of 3 of my Dsc. The youngest is very hostile and rude all the time and dh defends him when he's rude to me but not when he's being rude to anyone else. When I look after the childrenn when dh is at work the nastiness is 10 times worse as he knows i can't discipline him. For that reason I was really looking forward to the break. When he's good he's such a sweet loving child but sadly those occasions are so rare. Am I being unreasonable here?