Weddding advice

[fiveplustwo]

I am a BM of 5 and SM of 2...all grown. My children and their step siblings have no mutual interests and don't associate, unless forced on certain holidays. Still a discomfort level in the air at this age, after 13 yrs. Should I invite them to my son's wedding? and if so, how should they be seated?

I would suggest this is your son and his brides decision. It would be dependant for me on whether they are having a big do or a small intimate thing. But ultimately it's there day, so surely they choose the guests?

I made the mistake of inviting my DSD to a prior wedding of my DD against my DD's better judgement. Didn't seat DSD & her BF up front at head tables because of logisitics. My DSD was only one to not bring a gift for bride & groom, although she & her BF ate Filet Mignon. She felt "not included" as part of family....So now I truly feel sickened about the whole ordeal. WWYD??

WWID? I'd listen to Muskateersmummy and leave it to the bride and groom to decide on the invite list and seating arrangements.

THANK YOU Muskateersmummy & Gazelda for your advice!!!

Let the adults decide to invite who they want to their wedding. This stress isn't yours to have to solve!

Life with adult DSC is enough of a minefield, I would say, let your son and his bride decide who comes to their wedding! However if you and your DH are contributing considerably to the cost, perhaps your son would consider inviting them to the evening party. If they're paying for it themselves.....it's out of your hands!

Thank You lunar1 & Wdigin2this!! I appreciate the advice!!

If they're paying it's their shout. If you and DP are paying, then I would see what he thinks. It's his children you're talking about so good if you and/or your DS can come to a decision he's OK with.