A couple of years back i posted because my step-son had come to us at 16 but was abusive. since then me and my Husband had suffered a lot of damage to our marriage as he didn't seem to now what to do so distanced himself from us all. 2 years on DSS now has child of his own, thinking that maybe we could all get along how wrong could I have been? his ability to be very nasty to everyone other than his Dad has made all relationships in the family very difficult, none more so than mine with DSS. I asked him not to be so nasty and was met with a threat being made on my life (on facebook) and the only reason I didn't call the police as because of my relationship with my Husband, I thought not pursuing it let him see I'm not vindictive.
Hoping that his Granddaughter would be the one who could mend our broken relationship as he is totally emotionally distant.
on her 1st birthday he asked if I was coming to see her at DSS's house and I said no of course not, how could he even ask since I was told if I ever showed my face at his door he would shoot me in the face! this was met with " well you're the one excluding yourself" yet he makes no attempt to have his Granddaughter or let me see her, it's like I'm being punished for his Son's behaviour yet I wasn't the one bringing him up I never knew the kid. I have even asked him if he is scared of his Son which of course he says no but I am not so sure.
It's like he blames me for everything but won't do anything to solve the issues, I can't even talk to him anymore because he just turns everything around on me and makes me upset then thats emotional blackmail to him. I've really given up hope with my relationship, I'm severely depressed and can't cope anymore, I really thought he would've wanted us to bond with the little girl but it's like he's the one making sure neither of us do.