What do you wish DP would understand....

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I'm a step mum to my partners 2 children, we also have one of our own.

How do other people cope with a partner who isn't a step parent? I find it a great challenge trying to get my DP to understand how tough it can be being a step mum.

What do other people find tough about being a partner and a step parent?

Mascara my son tells me. I don't blame her doing her own thing why not. I just don't understand how it can be difficult being a step parent to a child who has access to a step parent who lives with the resident child.

I fear my DSC will grow up with let's just say a challenge to move into adulthood. But who's to say I'm right, maybe this child like bond with DP will persist and be a good thing.
I think the best attitude to take is indeed to trust your partner. In the end, if he (and mum) fail them so they become unbalanced adults, you won't have to deal with it.

My SM strongly believe that I would turn 'bad' if my dad didn't change his ways of disciplining me, but I am as balanced as it gets and SM and I are now very close. She used to have a go at him for not expecting enough of me helping around and use to say I would grow up lazy. I turned out a single parent of two children under the age of 4 working full time with no help. She tells me now she doesn't know how I did it!

My OH sometimes tells me that I am too soft with my DS. I feel confident that I am bringing up well and ask my OH to trust me. He does and that means a lot to me.