Slight rant

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WhoGivesAFlying · 07/09/2015 20:40

For once I'd like to know what is going on in my life without having to wait for a third party to decide what they are doing!!! I'm talking about the adults, not the kids.

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SouthAmericanCuisine · 07/09/2015 21:03

Preempt it. Make your decision, tell them what you are going to do, and leave the indecisive adults to work around you. Eventually, they might learn.

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WhoGivesAFlying · 07/09/2015 21:40

Yeah, I would do that but just for once, it would be nice. I want to make plans that involve the kids and I don't know if they will be here, and if they are not then DH will be traveling so it would just be nice to know. Just this once

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SouthAmericanCuisine · 07/09/2015 23:36

it's a no-win situation for you - I totally understand why so many Stepmums in your situation stop trying to plan nice/exciting/inclusive trips for their DSC because you never really know if they'll be there or not - but then you get criticised for not welcoming them.

Rant away.

Neverenuff · 08/09/2015 07:59

Just don't plan anything. Sort yourself and.Your own dc. Tell dp what your doing and if he want to come with his kids then he has to let you know asap.

if I t ok I'd like to rant here too - why have I to be accepting of the factdp has kids and 'I knew what I was getting into' but he can't seem to grasp the fact that I have no children and therefore would like to be asked if it's ok to keep the kids on non contact days.He knew what he was getting into too but this seems to be glazed over all the time. Sorry end rant not my thread. Xx

DragonsToSlayAndWineToDrink · 09/09/2015 14:30

I hear you all! Neverenuff I don't have DC, and my weekends are either spent a) with DSD having a lovely time at child focused places or watching Pixar films or visiting family with kids, or b) seeing adult friends, in bars, going to the cinema or theatre, going away for a romantic night with DP or occasionally doing big DIY projects, work etc- both great in different ways but there is very little overlap, so can't just slot in around ever-changing contact! So can't ever book anything!!!

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