Does anyone else change...

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...whe. your dsc are staying?

DP thinks my attitude changes when his kids are around. I wasn't aware but obviously it does or he wouldn't have said.

I've been told I do, I'm more on edge and constantly tidying up after them all and become the one who seperates all the bickering but to go from 1 child to 4 is bound to have an impact.

How has he said you have changed? Do you feel you do?

I didn't think I did but I think I am more on edge and feel like I'm walking on eggshells. But I didn't think it was anything major.

He couldn't give me a specific example which is more frustrating.

I think everyone in this house changes when dsd is here.

Dp becomes less tolerant of my children very openly and is snappy with me, probably in an attempt to show dsd he lives her the most. He fawns over her, runs around after her and generally becomes a pita. When she's not here he's brilliant with my kids, is affectionate.

I start getting anxious when she's here. Huge back story but I hate being left alone with her as it leaves me open to accusations. Several times she's lied about me to her mum and on one occasion I'd not been near her to have said what I was supposed to have said. So now I feel unsettled, on edge.

Coffee I don't have children of my own but being left alone etc I get the same feelings. I do feel more anxious and on edge and I must change. But I wish dp would just try and understand how I feel. I mustdo and feel things subconsciously. Maybe I try to hard to show my authorotyand place in the household because I feel disrespected otherwise. I find it hard to relax around the kids.

I think everyone behaves differently to some extent when there are children around. Is your DP saying this is a negative thing? If so I think he needs to be a bit more specific if he is pointing out what he perceives as a problem, or there is not much you can do about it.

OP of course you will change, it is only natural. Agree with above your OH needs to be specific.