And again

[LetTheChipsFall]

Right, I've been told I have issues by dh. Only yesterday I posted the 'so tired' thread and now I've seen another thing he's gone off and done with only his other two. I'm totally up for him having one on one time but when it's not done with our son I feel hurt.

He said he takes DS in the garden and that's his excuse! He's never taken DS out somewhere fun for him to do, that's reserved for the other two.

Maybe I do have issues but I think any mum doesn't like to see their child get short changed

I love doing stuff all together as DS loves his siblings, but I do understand they need just dad sometimes, just want him to do the same for DS.

I think I feel it more as even though DS was planned dh has made it clear (after DS was born) that he didn't want any more after his first two.

His family don't bother with DS wither but are always babysitting/visiting the dsc, this might be a factor to my feeling to.

Please tell me I'm nuts

No you are not nuts. If you split up, would he not have his son every other weekend then? Would he leave him at home alone, whilst he takes the others out?

Seems a bit cuntish as it is to be honest.

He's said he probably wouldn't see any of them if we split but I think he'd still see them and tell me he didn't

He's said he probably wouldn't see any of them if we split but I think he'd still see them and tell me he didn't.

How lovely of him...you've got a right catch there!

I think all children - regardless of their family set up need one on one with their parents. How old is your son? Is he at an age where he's noticing the one on one his siblings are getting while he's left behind?

The ages are all 5+ years apart. 14, 9 & 2. DH said he's better with kids when they are older but that was ok in his first relationship as mum had a good support network. I don't have that one bit. I've spoken to no one today, and that's normal

I've just put DS to bed (he's shattered, we've been out all day the two of us having fun) and I've just poured a large wine. DH is in the pub as he said he feels he needs a buffer between work and home life....don't we all, except mine is all the same thing

He sounds very selfish and like he can't be bothered with the tedious day to day parenting of a toddler. Ever.

Doesn't sound like a great dad at all. Completely Disney with the first two and absent for his youngest.

I just have to make sure I don't let the resentment towards them creep in as it's not their fault. They want for nothing. "What's that? You want a new bike and you birthday is only a month away but can't wait that long?... No problem have it now and get another big present for your b'day "

I feel bad now, he is a good dad in other ways. I'm a sahm and he totally supports us, he works hard to give us all we have. I do love him and I know he loves me.....life can just be so hard sometimes