How do you cope when you need your own space?

[LittleSnaily]

I am struggling with dsd who has gone from 50/50 to only seeing her mum eow.

She's here All The Time. Her friends are here at the time. We've got a tiny house with only one open living area and she's always in it with her friends.

I feel like i am not coping with it. I am such an introvert. I am just starting to cry a lot. I feel completely overwhelmed.

How do I deal with this? I feel as though I need somewhere to hide but unless I spend my life in bed, there's no option to do this. Help!?

Is this really a step child issue though? My 14 year old DS is currently hogging the sitting room, as he seems to most evenings - we do have a small study where I am using the computer no ipads here and DH is in our bedroom reading - it does irritate me endlessly. but so do shouting matches about who is using the sitting room. And we do have another room with a tv - but not Sky which seems to be what teenagers want .

When I was a teenager years ago I wouldn't have dreamed of using the sitting room in the evening, I was in my room with radio Luxembourg .

I agree with yellowpansies suggestion that seems like a nice positive way of approaching this

Get rid of Sky then, we've never had it, dss moans about it but I tell him when he pays the bills he can have whatever he wants.

I think you have to take control and reclaim the living room. I know it is hard! I have had the same issue, I let them use the living room during the day weekends - but reclaim it in the evenings - mostly because my OH just lets them do what they want and it would cause too many arguments to get them to use their rooms. In fact I am typing this with the incredibly annoying sound of XBox explosions and youtube songs while I am trying also to amuse 3 year old (with no one helping... ) - so completely understand!!!

Just have a word with her directly, then order some bean bags as yellowpansies says - and tell her that some of the time she needs to go to her friends house as well.