Who here are SM's

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Just wondering

Me. Same as Huffy above me.

One dsd (22), no biological children.

Got a 3 y/old DSS whos been with us for nearly 4 months so getting used to being a full time SM! No biokids yet!

One DSD.

2 DSS of DH and 1 DD of my own with DH

Me, I've been with their dad for over 20 years!

I have 3 DSCs and we have 2 DCs- have been together (not married) for 23 years.

Now also step gran to 5 DSGCs.

In fact age wise, DD and DSGD are only 6 weeks apart!

Lots of experience here :)

I'm not sure anymore, tbh.

SD and I have zero contact so yes but no?

She's 21. Has a dc. Hates me out of nowhere. Literally, out of nowhere. Wants nothing to do with her siblings.

Meh.

My DC and DH's are all grown, they were when I met DH! There always have been and there are still ongoing difficulties with one DSC, who...though we get on fine generally.... cannot stand on own two feet, financially or emotionally, which is a big drain on us! Can't really see it ever changing!

So sorry to hear that Walter

Thanks Eat I'm sort of used to it now, tbh. It's very awkward and I do think about things like weddings and funerals etc. but for the most part it has been fine actually. Which I guess says a lot about our relationship.

I always thought we were quite close though!

Me, plus my own little army of darlings. I think I have 5 children pottering about but it's difficult to tell who belongs to me and who belongs to neighbours

Although my eldest SS is 21+ and going blind although he has always been partially sighted. He has been the most challenging lately as he constantly asks about his Dads relationship with his Mum. No one will tell him what happened between them so he has made up his own version of events. My word he has definitely got the wrong end of the stick about it all. It's not my place to tell him what happened but if his Mum doesn't tell him soon I may just end up typing a drunken email to him

Sorry meant to say , 3 are my children with DH plus 2 step.

Wdigin2this ....though we get on fine generally.... cannot stand on own two feet, financially or emotionally, which is a big drain on us! Can't really see it ever changing!

I have a very similar situation with 1 DSC. I veer between resentment and acceptance depending on what is being asked of us at a particular time. It's not because she's a DSC that I feel this way, but because it's hard /unfair for the other DSCs, as well as our 2 DCs.

Yes I would have said 4 DSDs, and 2 DS - but losing DSDs very rapidly - the oldest are just resentful and since moving into their mums house (from ours) are increasingly acting like I never once cared/did anything for them. Quite heart breaking really.

3 DSS's, 1 DSD. No DC of my own as I never wanted kids!

I have a lovely DSD. Don't plan to have any of my own.

I have a 10 yr old dsd, and DH and I have two DDs, 9&6 and 18m DS together.

I have 1 dss (20), and have 6dc with dh (8,7,6,4,3,1)

I have been a stepmum for 20 years and then became a mum myself,and more recently a step grandmother

I am mum to 3,( two grown up) and sm to 6 of dh's (2 adults 2 teens who live with us) and two dcs who live with his ex. (Who always has and will continue to be a living nightmare)

I'm sort of sm to a dsd. Been with her daddy since she was about 2 met her just before she turned three and she now lives with us every weekend. She doesn't even realise (yet) and thinks I have always been there!!