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Photos od DSC on Facebook

36 replies

Cadburyhome · 30/06/2015 10:51

Out of interest what is everyones opinion on putting photos of DSC of facebook?

Do you do it or not?

Would you be offended if your children's step parent put photos up of your children?

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Quesera21 · 30/06/2015 22:36

If My Ex wants to post then I can not stop him and do not wish to - his choice.

But his DP - trying to play out and pretend happy families - no way, never, ever.

springalong · 01/07/2015 00:03

Fluffy I was responding to this comment from step "Nothing to do with DC mother, sorry". Well actually yes it is. Of course legally she cannot stop someone posting but common sense and respect of her views should matter. And visa-versa if dad doesn't want photos posted.

Melonfool · 01/07/2015 00:06

I have but only once or twice, always tagged so his mum sees it, he's 14 now so it's not a big deal and she has access to his account so could take it off if she didn't like it.

I've always been pretty sensitive about it though, I know it could be a touchy subject ("look at me having fun with someone else's kid" etc).

I'd never put up a profile picture or header pic on my own page with him in. dp has, of course.

wheresthelight · 01/07/2015 22:45

Dp's ex posts pics all the time and has never sought dps permission, likewise for him. I check with dp if it's ok - if he had an issue then I wouldn't but he is fine with it and generally it is "family" snaps with our dd rather than individual.

Pinkandpurplehairedlady · 01/07/2015 22:52

I would hit the roof if my ex's girlfriend posted pictures of our children. She was the OW and has gone out of her way to disrupt the amicable parenting relationship me and their dad have. As far as I'm concerned she has no right to play happy families with my children.

If they are still together in a few years I'll probably soften but at the moment no way.

CandyLane · 02/07/2015 00:56

I rarely post pics of DSC or even mention them on Facebook as I don't feel that they're mine to show off.
There a few family pics of us all together from our wedding day but they're ones that other people have tagged me in on.
I once posted a pic of our 4 DCs (2 mine, 2 DSC) but it was just a really lovely pic.
Their mum regularly posts pics and stories about her DSC so I think she'd be ok with me posting the occasional thing. But I don't feel too comfortable with it.

I remember seeing a friend change her profile pic to a lovely pic of her, her boyfriend and his two kids. If they were her kids it would have been gorgeous, they looked like such a happy little family. But she'd only been with him 5 mins, their mum didn't even want her involved with the kids as the split was so fresh and my friend was the OW.
It was totally out of order and very disrespectful, I would have been livid if I was the ex.
As much as I dislike DH's ex most some of the time, I'd never want to disrespect her by showing her kids off, I wouldn't like it if DS's step mum did it either.

Quesera21 · 02/07/2015 22:53

pinkpurple - I totally get where you are coming from.

OWs that try to make out that all is lovely and they did no harm - are scum of the sodding earth. Likewise any EX who posts with the OW making out life is good - thye are trying to justify their actions - it sucks.

LittleLionMansMummy · 03/07/2015 08:37

It has never occurred to me to ask for consent. Dh is happy and that's good enough for me. He's asked me not to put certain photos on there and i respect that. But then dsd is now 15 and she's been part of my life for 12 years so I'd be bloody offended if her mum objected. She doesn't by the way.

JakieOH · 03/07/2015 09:35

Get verbal or written consent from both parents before putting pictures of DSC on facebook??

Surely I'm not the only one who thinks that ridiculous?

I've got some pics of DSC on facebook, never really thought anything of it. Guess I would if the mother had issue with it but seeing as ive blocked her due to her harassment, I pressume she either doesn't know or isn't bothered.

DP has never even mentioned it and often looks at pictures on my facebook. I also have pictures of my godchildren, Nieces and nephews, little cousins and indeed some children I don't know very well at their parties. Better take some holidays to track down all their parents and obtain written consent

PeruvianFoodLover · 03/07/2015 10:17

I'd be really uncomfortable if DDs stepmum asked me what I thought in relation to DDs life with her Dad - it's really weird, IMO!

DDs dad trusts his DW, and it's nothing to do with me. I may not agree with everything he does as a parent (or consents to in this case) but I lost any influence I had over his parenting when we split. If DDs not in danger, then what happens on Exs watch is out of my influence/control.

CandyLane · 03/07/2015 11:50

Peruvian - can you have a word with my DH's ex please? If only she realised that she lost any influence on his parenting or his life the day she walked out

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