None of my business?? End of my tether!!

[JakieOH]

Why is it okay for my dpex to spread lies, write things about me (blatantly) on Facebook, phone my dp ranting about things I've apparently (haven't) said and done but if I eventually stick up for myself I need to 'back off because it's none of my business"? Just vile

Screenshot everything and threaten to go to court for libel?

My dp ex did this, though not the mother of his child, an in between ex, it caused all sorts of problems between us and almost split us up.
I'd never usually say who he could and could not speak to but in the end I had to say he could no longer be in touch with her. Obviously that then led to more arguments but I got through in the end.

I agree you need to take screen shots but also ensure you and do are on the same page all the time about everything, lots of discussions about it, being open and honest.

She is the mother of his 2dcs. Everything was going fine, she wanted to meet me before I met their children which I agreed to. There were things happening that I saw and didn't think was right with regards their maintenance, access to kids etc, but I agree it has nothing to do with me so I said nothing, not even to my DP, completely not my place so I kept it to myself plus it didn't affect me anyway so no problem. It's such a long story but basically she ended their relationship and while my DP was still living in the house she would leave him in with the children while she went out with her 'new' fella!!

But that was a long time ago before I met him and again nothing to do with me. On the whole things were amicable between them, and me as far as I was concerned, until her new bloke finished with her, now it's gone crazy! I was aware that things were being said about me but I tried to remain calm and hoped it would pass. Unfortunately it's escalated and there was only so much of my name getting flung around I could take before I decided that this is 'my business' now. It wasn't my business until I got dragged, unfairly, into it all. It's a shame really. But I'll try and keep quiet again and hopefully her and her nasty mates will find some other poor soul to pick on.

If she's posting untrue/unreasonable/offensive things about you on FB, you can report it to the invigilators!

As other's have said, I'd take screenshots and keep a note of any incidents.
Libel is a tough route and one you'd have to fund yourself!
However if it does continue, you could ask the police to speak with her on the grounds of harassment...
It's a tough decision though and could lead to a lot of problems down the line.

I probably wouldn't go down that route unless things got a lot worse. Don't like conflict and I think she is just bitter given the breakdown of her own relationship and we have just bought a property etc. I'm hoping it will die down now, I've said my piece, not that it made much difference in fact probably agrivated the situation but there's only so much you can can take! I've been asked by 2 separate people today where she is planning on moving too hoping this isn't going to be the next thing good to be able to speak about these things anon on here actually and see how others feel about these situations. Gives perspective