I don't think I am in the wrong but it's caused such ructions that maybe my view is getting clouded.
Basically when my ds (with my dp) was born I opened a savings account and put money in every month, I spoke to my dp when first opened and he didn't have any spare money to contribute so only my money goes in every month. Dps ex has found out about (via nosey sil) and is demanding that I open accounts for dsd and dss and split the money so far saved and then contribute to all three. I have point blank refused, it is not my job to save for their futures both her and my dp are capable of doing this so why should I??? As usual extended family (his) are all involved now and saying it's unfair and I'm obviously disadvantaging my dsc in preference to my ds, which I suppose they are techincally right about, but I am furious that I am being seen as a bad guy for saving for my ds future. When they're not doing anything. Dp is arg teeing with me but has murmured about opening the other accounts and maybe a token amount would be fair, I told him where to go. So am I being a massive bitch???