Being in tears over dh ex (dsc mum)

[QueenofSouthLondon]

She has always been hostile to me and manipulative to dh over acsess to his dsd 17 and dss 16. Since the last 3/4 years her influence on them has lessened due to the dsc age. She now uses what ever she can to get at us. She rings in the middle of the night crying to dh begging him to come back (divorced almost 7 years).

She has said horrible racist things towards me on Facebook and she has accused me of all sorts of things I have just had enough.

The kids can ring their father from their own phones so there's no need to answer if her number comes up and block her on Facebook. Have some comfort in the fact that the kids are becoming young adults and she is panicking because she will not have any control over your lives. It won't be long until there will be no need to have any contact with her.

some people are just messed.

As pp said. Don't answer the phone in the middle of the night. Block her on facebook.

Try not to let the things she says get to you. Talk to DH and work out strategy to keep her out of your lives. Don't let her come to your house (if she does). If you answer the phone to her just put it down and don't engage in conversation.

If the two of you work as a team on this she should get the message. Good luck, having experienced something like this it is not nice.

Just wanted to say you're not alone, I'm another stepmum with a nightmare exW lurking in the background, ready to cause trouble at any moment.

Your DSC are getting older now, really there's no reason for her and your DH to have much contact anymore.

I've learnt over the years that I can support DH with the problems with his ex without taking on the stress myself.

His ex has slagged me off on Facebook but I only know that because I've looked on her profile, if I don't look I don't see it. Simple.

And anyway, the people she knows don't matter to me. Anybody who matters to me knows the truth about me, they know I'm a nice person. So she can slag me off all she likes, she's just making herself look like an immature jealous cow. Your DH's ex is doing the same x

However if she is actually being racist on social media - report her

All the rest, take a deep breath and ignore - the less reaction the quicker she will lose interest