How much say does your SO's ex have in what happens during contact?

[ObsidianEagle]

DH's ExW is getting a bit interfering.

she keeps emailing DH complaining about stuff that's gone on during contact, telling him she's not happy how hes spending his time with them and telling him what he should/shouldn't be doing.... along the lines of moaning about where we go, who we see, what we give them...etc.

Personally, i think its a bit much, and DH needs to tell her to butt out. I dont tell my ex what he should/shouldn't be doing during his contact time with our children, as long as they come home happy, fed and clean, what he does is his business.

What do you think? Is there some middle ground, or am i right? its starting to cause a bit of friction because i'm getting tired of the complaining emails.

It depends, if she's complaining they had a fruit shoot and gregs sausage roll then she should but out. If you dh is taking them on break-ins and giving them whisky to get them to sleep then she may have a point.

lmao, its definitely more the former kind of stuff

i'm a bit past it for bonnie & clyde weekends.

lunar!

dp's ex tried this only she made the mistake of bitching at me about it and got told a few home truths opps! om my defense I was on week 27 of non stop throwing up during pregnancy and she picked a particularly bad day to whinge that the kids hadn't done anything "fun"

We used to get long ranting emails after nearly every contact visit. She complained about everything from how we did their homework to what they ate. Her double standards are quite shocking as they regularly get detentions for not doing homework at hers and turn up at 4pm for contact having eaten nothing all day but a bag of crisps at her house.

Something happened after dp went to court. Someone must have told her to stop with the emailing and she's been as quiet as a mouse since.

Speaking from the POV of an XW, I let XH get on with it.

Certain things annoy me but I keep that to myself. I don't always get the same consideration in return!!

Quite a lot when DSD was tiny and DH had not much contact. She'd complain about what time we ate lunch at the weekends, how many times DH had said "I love you" to DSD over the weekend, spending too much time outside....you get the picture.

None at all since DH went to court / had decent contact.

None what so ever, and she's never interfered . And we don't but in with what she's doing.

I don't interfere with my ex, what he does in his time is his business, even though it is frustrating that he does Jack shit very little with him.

DH's ex will complain that he does nothing with DSC, even though we do things every weekend. But it seems that she just has different ideas about what is "fun" and she doesn't appreciate the simple things in life like we do.

We just try to ignore it. It's different opinions of parenting. Some parents choose to spend £100 on a day out at a weekend, others enjoy a bike ride and a picnic.

Very little thankfully, I'm lucky in that respect. We're left very much to get on with things as we like.

She's more inclined to send DH long ranting emails about one of the kids' behaviour at her house, which has become a bit of a joke at ours, as it's clearly born out of frustration but not usually something DH can do anything about (along the lines of "DSS smells. Can you tell him to wash more, and threaten to not pay for him to go to Uni if he doesn't"