Just wondering how everyone else handles the situation after ww3 started this morning with OHs ex wife.
OH got made redundant and has just landed a temporary job after 2 years trying. Instead of signing on the dole he started an odd jobs business and worked his butt off. He doesn't fiddle his books, I know cos I do his accounts lol. We've seriously struggled financially and moved in with my parents at one point to avoid being homeless! CSA had him on a nil rate for a while and now fiver a week but he always does a standing order for more. At the worst times it was low but he has increased it. He also does haircuts/school shoes/ out of school hobbies on top. Goes halves on school uniforms and school trips.
This has been a constant argument because she believes we are living a life of luxury for some reason and has decided that he must have lied to csa.
She has told him that he is to stop sending money to her account for music lessons and school trips under the reference "child maintenance" as this is not maintenance in her opinion and he should pay the school direct.
Just to be clear this money is in addition to the regular monthly standing order not deducting from it in any way.
She has accused him of playing the system and dodging his responsibility because he refused to stop sending money through her account.
CSA advised him that anything he spends on them is considered a gift unless it goes through her account which he explained to her.
What do you think is right thing to do? Should this be considered child maintenance or not?