After another miserable weekend, I'm drained. My partner and his 16 year old son and I live in a tiny 2 bedroom house.
The lad, I'll call him "Bill", is the eldest of 3 boys who each have a lot of "emotional baggage" as their BM has her problems, drink drugs the lot.
Bill came to us after a massive row with his mum, and an elder half brother when violence was threatened.
This happened in the middle of his GCSEs (June) and therefore was a terrible upheaval.
Bill was ferried back an forth to his school, several miles away, in order to take his exams. Not surprisingly he failed most of them.
We struggled to get him into a school locally to retake. He intially wanted to quit school and look for a job. We practically had to beg him to stay on to atleast get English and Maths. He agreed and we thought he was settling at his new school.
But it seems, through the course of several rows, he is here for one reason only. Here he can have a room of his own. At his mums he would have to share. Plus he thought we had more money than we do. And as we have massive Csa paymnets for his brothers, we are pretty broke.
We both work, luckily me from home, but anything we get him is not good enough, not the right label etc. His mum has always been on benefits and fiddling the system, and he can't understand that we have less money than her when we both bring in a wage.
Now it seems he wants to move back to Mum,and transfer to his old school. He hasn't told us this, it has come from his Mum. He has asked for his old room back and she wants us to "swap" Bill for his younger brother, who frankly I am scared of.
Younger brother who I'll call Tim, is 14 and has serious behavoural problems. He is violent, on the verge of being thrown out of school, no one else will take him and he is involved in street crime.
The thought of letting this boy into my home makes me feel suicidal.
I've told my partner I just can't face the thought of taking in Tim. It has been tough enough for me with Bill, who is very confrontational and moody.
But everything seems to be moving towards this. Bill has been talking to his Mum and asking her to "free up a bedroom" and move back. If we ask anything of him, do homework, get up in the morning, there is this underlying feeling that if we upset him, we'll end up with his much worse brother.HELP>