Feeling a bit bad over calendar

[TheMumsRush]

This is the first year I haven't got them one. We see them EOW and when they get here it's the first thing they use to do, eat 12 chocolates. And they have them at home too. Ds has one this year (it was a gift) and I don't want to watch him watching them having a load of chocolate. They are at an age where they'd understand but I still feel a bit mean.

It's a bit mean to have your DS eating chocolate out of an advent calendar and them having none

Just had a fab idea! Next year I'll get a wooden one with draws, the weekend the kids are here I'll put extra treats in

That's a fantastic solution

You need to invest in a reusable calender. We picked ours up this time last yr half price - then you can give them chocolates for the days they are there (or indeed every day if you feel so inclined!)

It's also a bit mean them having 12 and him having 1

I would get them some. Just give ds an extra little mini chocolate bar or something. It's kind of a given that divorced parents means two of things!

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It was like a bolt of lightning not a bulb above my head haha!

*or a bulb

But surely he's having one every day, and they're having them all at once? So he's not missing out it's just spread out differently. The reusable one for next year is a good idea though.

They are fine with it, they told me they have 3 each at home. Will definitely be doing a reusable one, don't think I'll be putting chocolate in all the compartments though

Heh, DSS had 6 days of advent calendar to open yesterday! He scrupulously and voluntarily the 6 chocolates between DP, me and himself. But going forward we've said he can open/eat the chocolates the days he is here, and I we will eat the chooclates on the days he's not here. It works because he already has a calendar at his mum's and he doesn't have a huge appetite for chocolate anyway, whereas I, on the other hand, am a chocaholic!

Eventually, we just kept DDs calendar out of the way when the DSC were here - having a calendar with us caused them to much conflict (it was something their Mum strongly disagreed with), so DD had her chocolate when the DSC were doing something else with their dad.