Any advice

[Struggling01]

I never thought the day would come when I needed advice. I am a step mother to 3 adult (only just) daughters and have been for over 10 years. We have been through the troublesome teenage and sulking years and I hopedthat as the girls got older it would bring friendship. Instead it has now brought deliberate lies and outbursts, my husband has never been good with discipline, in fact he never has done it, the girls have always been able to cry their way through anything they did wrong. But now their lies and outbursts can be directed towards me. My husband never questions them but will instead instantly blame me, even when they have been proven wrong he will never tell them to apologise or point out how much trouble their lies can cause.
Has anyone ever suffered from this? And if so how to solve it? I feel like paking my bags and leaving my home because I cannot bear the tension.

it's probably not what you want to hear but if your partner isn't willing to parent his kids then leaving might be your only option I am afraid.

they have been allowed to get away with this sort of behaviour their whole lives so it will now be ingrained. it isn't the girls fault, your partner is 100% to blame sorry

I am so sorry to read this. Can you tell him how this makes you feel when he does this? Write him a letter using specific examples? Can you both get counseling? Sounds like he needs to see the impact of his behavior on his daughters and from there to you, and some kind of support to change this pattern of behavior to them.

They may still grow up. I know some people who were truly horrible teenagers and early adults who in their 30s became rational normal and nice humanbeings after friends and society helped them to take better responsibility for themselves.