Aibu to step back this weekend...

[Justkeepsmiling1]

And how do I go about doing it?

DP has his son (4) every other weekend and I normally do most of the cooking and spend a considerable most of the weekend with both DP and SS. Normally I love spending time with his son and we get on great.

However, this week I've just started a new job and am exhausted. It's been really long days and pretty intense so I just want to crash out. Also I've been feeling really depressed and anxious lately and recently started taking anti depressants which seem to have temporarily made things worse - from previous experience I know first few weeks get worse before I get better. So I'm still very much in the washed out, feel super sick stage.

Aibu to back off from spending time with SS this weekend? How do I go about it without sounding like I just cba. I think the weather forecast is rain and we have quite a small flat so there's nowhere really I can get space. I've another 3 hrs in work so SS will most likely be asleep (I hope!!) by the time I get home but I'm just a bit worried about tomorrow & Sunday as I really need to try and recover before Monday.

Apologies if this is a bit all over the place (a bit like my head atm!). Hopefully you can understand what it is I'm trying to ask.

Really should preview! That's supposed to say I spend most of the weekend with DP and SS. And just to clarify, I cook because DP sucks at cooking and we'd end up with junk and when I say spend time with them, I don't mean DP puts it all on me. Just that SS likes playing with both of us.

Just tell him you're feeling washed out after a busy week and are intending to take it easy over the weekend to re-charge your batteries.

Just be honest with him.

I agree just tell them you aren't feeling great and you are gonna chill out whilst they have some boys time.

it is draining running around after someone else's kids irrespective of how much you care about them!! after a long stressful week at work I didn't relish the thought of having to be upbeat and energetic for my dsc's, they are luckily old enough to take themselves off to the park however!

we r all allowed a cant b arsed wknd sumtimes, ur dh should understand.
if it was was me id say "I love u both very much but I feel crap and need me time"

It would be perfectly reasonable in a together family for one parent to need a a rest owith the week you have described! So don't feel guilty or like you need to apologise just be honest with your partner and he should support you. Look after yourself :)

Everyone needs some time alone.

I had a spell of working full time - and having the DSSs coming every weekend. I was knackered and felt like i had no time to do anything.

How about see if DH can take DSs out for the afternoon and have tea out or something? That way you can have quiet time at home to do what you like.