My partner has two sons. The youngest (17) has learning difficulties. I'm not sure if this is the reason but anyway DP seems obsessed with the eldest son (19) to the point where he just bends over backwards to ensure he's no.1 priority in everything we do.
For example all weekend activities are usually based around what eldest would want to do with little regard to what his youngest or my kids might want to do. His boys share a bedroom here yet he refers to it as "ss1's room". If we arrange to do something one weekend and eldest doesn't turn up DP usually ends up trying to cancel all the plans for that weekend as if there is no point if DSS1 isn't there to enjoy it.
When DSS2 turned 16, his birthday outing was based on what DSS1 would enjoy.
Not only this but if DSS1 decides he likes a certain band or whatever suddenly DP becomes obsessed with them too and starts downloading their music and learning their songs on guitar.
A few weeks ago DSS1 came down with some new shoes on - DP decided he just had to have them and yesterday bought the exact same pair!!!
This lad can do wrong in his eyes. Even when he's cheeky, cocky, lazy and self entitled DP has his blinkers on (the blinkers soon come off when it's my kids doing it though!!!).
This surely isn't normal? I find it almost off-putting that a 43 year old man "looks up" to a 19 year old lad.