Bloody teenage Step-son....

[QueenArseClangers]

... He's so lovely I could squeeeeeeeze him!
He's lived with us (50/50) since he was 3 and my eldest was nearly 2 and he's a smashing lad. He's nearly 15 now and he and his step-brother (my ds) are so close we forget they're not 'proper' brothers. In fact, I love him so much that I forget I didn't give birth to him sometimes
We have 5 DC now and although we have the usual ups and downs with kids they're all fantastic and our blended family runs along nicely.
Thought I'd just add a positive thread about step DCs, sometimes situations DO work out for the best when families join together.

Awww

That's lovely.

Also I love your name! ^ Two arses on one thread

Good for you, I think that's wonderful, and coming out the better end of a SP experience myself, I can breathe a sigh of relief that all's well where we are now.

You are going to disappoint so many people with your enticing thread title though, I can hear the sound of torches being dropped and pitchforks being dragged home.

Its a great success story you tell QueenArse (another titterer here!!) and I expect that 'behind the story' is an awful lot of effort, patience and compromise to have got to where you are today.

I'm the proud SM to a great DSS(nearly)17 as who has been a 50/50 since 7yo, ups and downs along the way, but that's the nature of family break-ups, its painful stuff - still some sad moments, but things can turn out well.

I have found the passage of time can help - as the 'child' grows older, they become empowered to make their own decisions which takes the heat out of the situation a lot of the time!

Enjoy!!

You are going to disappoint so many people with your enticing thread title though, I can hear the sound of torches being dropped and pitchforks being dragged home.

^ LOFF

That's so nice to hear :) I too have had ups and downs but generally things runs smoothly and all parties are happy

Fenton, that did make me chuckle

It's so refreshing to see posts like these. Yes, step parenting is hard but it's not all doom and gloom :)

Can I add something positive too? After years of struggling with an infantilised DSS, a Disney DH, and the most infuriating 'Set In Stone Access Rota for Adults', things have improved siginificantly.

Hooray Petal!

You get a medal for perseverance.

Wow - thanks Fenton!!!

How nice ... love the misleading title!
Petal - I have name changed but I remember your threads and I'm so glad to hear that things are better for you.

I had a nice weekend with my ex DSD who is now 22 and has just moved into her first home after finishing uni. I was with her alcoholic arse of a father for 5 years when my dc were young. Since we have split up she has risked his anger and stayed in touch and my dc think of her as their big sister and totally adore her.

There is light at the end of the tunnel and sometimes even though relationships break down the dc come out the other side stronger and happier for it.

Lovely thread .

Pity some had to introduce negativity onto it though

It's alright Nicki, we forgive you for the sad face.

Lovely thread op

Don't be disingenuous weasel.

I'm just glad there's some real positivity on occasion in this board. It's lovely to see

I'm not being disingenuous. I'm sure I'd be brilliant at it if I knew what it meant though.

Disingenuous = lacking in frankness or sincerity.

Thank you Petal. On that case, no, I wasn't being disingenuous.

I'll add a bit more to the positivity,-

My youngest SS off to University was having a bit of a wobble, in tears because he wasn't going to know anyone or be able to make friends. I gave him a pep talk, told him he would make friends in no time because he's funny and kind and charismatic and I would be glad to have him as a friend. (yes we are there now, who knew?)

He then cried even more, and apologised for being such an arsehole growing up, and didn't know how I had managed never to hit him or throw him out.

Then he cried some more and hugged me. First time he's touched me in probably 9 years.

Lovely.

Some lovely posts, Awwww feeling all warm and fuzzy

What a lovely thread. I'm really pleased to hear things have improved Petal. Is your SS doing ok at Uni?

DSS is positively thriving at Uni - I can't believe the change in him. And I thought DH would crumble without the access rota, but he didn't. I'm looking forward to DSS's next visit, hopefully before Christmas. 18 months ago I couldn't have imagined thinking that. I'm sure there will still be challenges along the way, but I genuinely feel the difficult years are largely behind us. Hopefully.

Lovely thread . I realised how much my step children meant to me when I found myself missing them when they upped sticks & left home. I mean I knew that I had grown to live them, but I hadn't realised how much I enjoyed being with them.

Petal I'm so pleased for you and your family. Your threads used to resonate with me as I have a similar sounding lad.

Aww thats lovely. I also get on with my DSS(15) really well and think he is great