Is your DSC mum on MN, and if she was, would you post?

[WakeyCakey45]

Inspired from another thread, where it has become apparent that the identity of at least two SM posters on this board is known to their DSC Mum, would you still post if you knew your DSC mum was reading your posts?

I would, because my DSC mum is open about her opinions and I have always been honest and never said anything here that I wouldn't tell her in RL.

There would be fallout for the DSC, because I have written on here things they've said to me that she probably doesn't know - but if she ever finds out, then it's probably best that it's all out in the open.

No I'd leave the forum, so hopefully it never happens!
We have no direct contact with her and I wouldn't risk being contacted so would remove myself from the situation.
I don't think id want to see her posts either! I'd struggle not to comment but Id have to ignore her an I'm not sure I'd e able too!

I'm not quite sure whether I am a step mum - my boyfriends DS is 19 but we've only been going out for 2.5 years and don't live with each other so not sure quite what I am. Would be surprised to see his mum posting on Mumsnet tbh.

My XHs gf probably more likely to post on here I suppose. Again not sure quite when someone turns into a SM - they don't live together but have been together longer. I am neutral to positive towards her - not sure what she thinks about me but it hasn't affected the DC in any way so that is all good

In my early days here when I was most in need of help it did occur to me that the DSC mum could be here too, so I was careful to be not too specific about my situation.

I don't think it would stop me posting, I might namechange if I thought she knew it was me posting but only because it would feel like she was reading my diary IYSWIM?

Tbh my problems were so like many other SMs she would have had difficulty being sure it was me anyway.

And she would not have been able to keep it to herself if she thought she'd found me

No, never! I doubt she's on here anyway not really her thing.

I think I'd probably change name more often and alter a few more details here and there so she wouldn't spot me.

But fortunately she's a complete technophobe that doesn't even use FB or own a mobile phone, so reckon I'm safe enough :-)

More worried that the DSC or my own DC might snoop, so do tend to NC if I'm saying anything I really wouldn't want them to read.

DSS's mum doesn't speak English so I think I'm fairly safe.

If I DID think she might be on here, I would definitely feel uncomfortable posting. I really wouldn't want her to read some of my innermost negative feelings about being a stepparent to her DSS.

her DS, my DSS, I mean.

If you are talking about me Wakey, I just need to correct you. Xh's dp isn't a SM poster on this board, but I am.

I've never seen anything since the one thread I talked about on the other thread that would indicate that she's here.

Neither of my DSC's mums post here as far as I know. I don't think it would stop me posting if I knew either were here, I've been here way too long to just leave, but I'd avoid any thread they had started, I wouldn't challenge anything they said and would probably name change more than I do now.

I would continue to post. My DSC's mum has stalked me online - she's blocked from my Facebook but uses another account to see when my profile picture changes (I had a picture of me holding a friends baby and she told her solicitor that my baby had been born - 2+2=5!). She paid £35 to join a charity to gain access to their forum where DH & I got legal advice about the contact hearings we had to go through so she could see my posts. She's never met me, she only knows my profiles and usernames by some rather excessive reading about me. The CAFCASS officer confirmed it wasn't normal. Her solicitor called her unhinged to our barrister.

I don't actually give a stuff anymore. I'm a good person, I act lovingly towards her DC (as I would to any family member), I bite my tongue when she tries to make out I'm a nutcase. They've been separated (now divorced) for two and half years. He has remarried me and we have a child. If she wants to spend her life following me online to try and "catch me out" so that she can go back to her solicitor and try and withhold contact yet again, good luck to her!

I don't know if my DSC mum posts on here or not. But if I found out she did then it wouldn't stop me posting. It would be silly of me to think she doesn't because Mumsnet is such a big community. But I wouldn't go in search of her if I knew she was. She's just as entitled to have an opinion of things as I am and to keep her anonymity too.

Plus, I wouldn't put anything on a forum that I didn't want anybody to know. Mumsnet is an open forum where anybody can read.

Pfft hell no i wouldn't stop posting here
If she doesn't like what i post maybe she should stop doing the crap i post about

Wakey - as one of those who does know her DCS SM posts!

I am here, I do post - never on her threads but on other subjects.

I have learnt alot of restraint - typed and deleted alot but ultimately, she has sadly confirmed alot of what my DCs say is true

I'd probably still post because my problem isn't my dsc or their mum, it's Disney DH ??

How do you know they're on here though? I only suspect my dss' mum isn't on here, but how would you know for sure?

I would carry on because whatever I say I would say to her face should the opportunity arise. That said ,I don't actually have anything overly terrible to say about her apart from the odd negative so might be different if I was bad mouthing her all the time.

Not something I would ever have to worry about - were on nethuns, however...

Were I *

How do you know they're on here though? I only suspect my dss' mum isn't on here, but how would you know for sure?

kinky This thread was inspired after one poster revealed in another thread that she knew her DCs SMs username after the DCs accidentally brought home the wrong ipad and the SM was logged in to MN - and has browsed the posts made by that username since finding out.
So yes, there are some posters who know for sure.

As the other poster who Wakey was talking about in her OP, it was the detail which xh's gf posted that made her completely recognisable. Ages, genders, back story and an ex wife (me) who had just taken on her dsd from her former relationship to live with her. The more questions posters asked her, the more it became undeniably my situation.

I didn't search anything out, just idly opening threads over a cuppa after work. Made me cry though as the mumsnet I knew came out in force and completely got our situation, saw through her, got dsd and how upset she must have been, and they told her I must be lovely! And I didn't comment!!

My DSC's mum seems to be pretty active on MN (or was) and is totally recognisable for the same reasons other posters have described.

Like other posters I hadn't searched her out but read a thread clearly about me on AIBU. However, unlike ChiefBilly I got the flaming - hardly surprising since she lied outright until she got the responses she wanted. I didn't say anything about it in RL and I wouldn't engage with her on here either. I did read all her posts on here though which were VERY revealing.

I have to admit it made me feel better. She has been very malicious in her actions towards me and DH and some things she threatened she clearly is in no position to carry out.

I didn't continue to search for her though - would have been a self inflicted unhealthy intrusion into my life. I don't know if she knows I'm on here. I doubt it but can't be certain. There's no such thing as complete anonymity.

I've no idea if MY DC's step mum is on here but if she were and knew my identity I'd continue to post as she's lovely and I have nothing but respect for her. My kids love her too.

I often wonder if she is, but I doubt it.
Never met her and really not keen on any contact with her TBH. I try my best to make bond with DSS7, though I think she probably doesnt like me much as he keeps asking for me when his dad picks him up.

I suspected that my DSDs mum was on after one particularly nasty criticism of my DH. But his ex never passes up an opportunity to have a go at him (the lengths she goes to are impressive lol), so if she is on here, then it's most likely she hasn't recognised herself, which I'm quite proud of lol!