DH has a 7 and 8 yr old, I have a 7 yr old, we have a 2 yr old together and I'm heavily pregnant. His exW hates the idea of my DSC being part of our family and has made endless attempts to damage contact - moving without telling us, telling them DH picked us over them, telling them to be mean and spiteful to our DC and so on.
It has been to court and DH was awarded a measly one night eow. ExW claims one child needs counselling and the other has a tic because they're so traumatised at being with us/away from her. She packs photos of herself and secret phones, whispers in their ear and makes them cry at collection and makes them feel guilty if they say anything about us. She's asked for cafcass to investigate because she claims the children hate contact, but when they're here they are (mostly) very happy and asking to stay.
Recently, she's been getting one or both DCs to phone and tell DH they want to miss contact because X,Y,Z is happening at mums house. When he says no, they're in floods of tears and exW gives him lots of abuse for upsetting them. She then reminds them what they're missing at collection so they'll be upset again and encourages them to be horrid here so he might send them back home.
This weekend it's my DDs birthday. We've booked a weekend away at Alton Towers for us and all DC. DHs DC rang yesterday saying there's a christening they want to go to on Sunday and demanding that he returns them Saturday evening (after collecting them Sat morning!) We areaalready driving two hours extra to collect them and DH would miss most of Saturday if he returned them. He said no, but DC were both crying and screaming that they'll refuse to come if he doesn't do as they say and his DD made a snide comment that if she's going to be miserable and not get to do what she wants then she'll be making sure my DD has a miserable birthday. My DD adores DSD but is bought to tears her cruelty often. Being cooped up in a hotel room with two sulking DSC is going to ruin her birthday.
Now they're back at school there's likely to be parties most weekends which they'll ask to miss contact for and kick off if he says no. ExW won't let him take them to parties. He feels like he either has to manhandle screaming crying DC into the car andput up with them bbeing vile all weekend if there was something else they could've been doing, or else arrive to collect them and accept that they refuse to go, thereby meaning exW has breached the order by not encouraging contact and then hopefully there'll be some consequences for her eventually.
I think DH just feels like an interference in their life as exW is making it all be so traumatic for them. Of course he'll try and get his point across to CAFCASS but it's been six years since separation now and her games are getting worse all the time, to the detriment of both DSC and our DC.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice?