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Sometimes it's just a bit rough

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WestEast · 06/09/2014 21:22

DP has a DSD (5) whom since we've started living together (3 months) has been staying over one night every weekend. Fine by me. He loves it. She loves it. That's the main thing. He had regular contact before but no overnights. Overnights was huge for him.
His ExW is lovely for the most part, amicable, friendly.
This past few weeks she's been obstructive, ie we can have her in a Friday evening but she needs her back by 10 am Saturday morning which means no meaningful time with his DD.
Today I've had him in tears over this. I've been in tears seeing him this way. His daughter is absolutely the number one person in his life and it's beautiful to see.
They've talked and have sorted somethings out.
I've also had him tell me he understands if I want to leave him if it's too hard for me.
My heart nearly broke, I love him, I love her, not like he does or her mum does, but as daddy's girlfriend does.
God it's hard work sometimes isn't it.

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StercusAccidit · 07/09/2014 01:10

It is.
Have you thought about reconsidering the day she stays over, maybe mum has plans?
Or has dp raised this with her and asked why she's changed, and asked if there's anything he can do to make things easier.. a bit of communication may help here.
Sorry its not going well at the moment x

shey03 · 08/09/2014 09:43

Yes, it would help to know why this is and as pp said, if another day/night would be better. Hugs.

ribboncatcher · 08/09/2014 13:47

I am just embarking on this journey myself. My BF is exactly the same - his entire world spins around his two kids and he would be bereft if anything threatened that. It's one of the reasons I fell in love with him.

I'm sorry that he is hurting and I am sorry for you because I know how horrible it is being powerless to help someone you love.

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