Met the ex....

[how2cope]

So this evening, after being with my DP I met the dreaded ex! I don't really know how I feel about it, I think I knew that it would quite likely happen tonight (I had to collect my DSD due to DO being delayed), so it was just us for a few minutes, and dare I say it, she seemed nice...

Better that it's over and done with, and I'm happy it is, I don't feel utterly inadequate since meeting her, she's just normal.... For those who haven't yet met, I recommend it, it makes you realise they're normal, and I imagine it's the same for them....

Being with DP for 3 years.....

Why was she the "dreaded ex" - has she been particularly difficult, or did your DP paint her out to be dreadful?

I think in many cases the anticipation is worse than the reality - although in some cases, the expectation can be spot on!

If all the adults involved can be grown ups, then that's definitely best for the DCs; I don't think it's necessary to be good friends or anything though, DCs don't "need" that, and it can sometimes be more confusing for them.

She's just been pretty difficult really, a bit selfish, saying things to my DSD about me and DP, just making things hard, and I'm sure she'll continue to be like that, but, it's kind of a milestone overcome now, meeting her. I certainly don't want to be her friend, but Id like to think we could speak a few pleasantries to each other, which I'm sure we now could if the need ever arose....
Still, it's tough being a SM, so many difficult emotions to deal with, not just about the DSC but also the ex, plus the DPs moods / parenting style. / guilt etc. We're only human though, I guess we just have to give ourselves a break sometimes

With a bit of luck she thought the same about you (quite nice) and things will get slightly easier now. It is much easier to be antagnostic and resentful towards the idea of someone than the reality.

Fingers crossed anyway

Thanks arsenic, here's hoping!! X