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What an effing joke, not having posted on here recently - until this particular email from the Gods who are MumsNet!

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Tappergirl · 17/08/2014 14:14

Hi Tappergirl,

We wanted to drop you a line about your posts on Mumsnet, because we've have had a few reports from other posters about them, particularly your posts on the step parenting threads. And when we took a look, we could understand why other posters thought they broke our Talk Guidelines (www.mumsnet.com/info/netiquette).

We know that step-parenting has become quite a fraught area of the site, and that two opposing 'camps' of posters seem to have emerged. Our take on this is that everyone is welcome to post in the Step-parents topic - so long as they do so within our Talk Guidelines - and we'd really appreciate it if everyone concerned in the bad feeling could step back a bit and concentrate on the issues raised by each thread, rather than thrashing out ongoing disputes with other posters.

Our aim is to make parents' lives easier by pooling and sharing advice and support, and we ask members to respect each other's opinions, even when they don't agree with them. We do understand that everyone can get a bit het up on the internet from time to time, but we'd be grateful if you could bear this in mind in future.

Step parenting is never easy, so we think a bit of peace, love and support wouldn't go amiss. And please rest assured that you are by no means the only poster we're contacting about this.

Thanks and best,
MNHQ

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AmyMumsnet · 17/08/2014 15:24

Hi Tapper,

Apologies that you feel upset by our mail - that wasn't our intention and as we said in the mail you weren't the only one contacted.

We've noticed that there have been problems building on the step-parenting boards and we felt we needed to step in and make a few pro-active steps in order to deal with it.

What we want (and what we're sure most of you want too) is for step-parenting to be a supportive and helpful place, where people can express divergent viewpoints but without constantly retreating to well-worn battle lines or referring back to old disputes. Not because those disputes aren't important, but because it really doesn't help posters who've come along looking for specific advice about their situation. One of the things that leapt out at us about the threads we looked at was that lots of them seemed to be quite badly derailed, which isn't against Talk Guidelines but in these cases did seem to be of dubious value to the OP.

To that end, the mails were really an attempt to contact some of the people involved and ask them (nicely, we thought - but sorry if we got the tone wrong!) to take a bit of a breath and a step back before they post.

MNHQ

YetAnotherHelenMumsnet · 18/08/2014 22:41

Hi all, we do think it would be most unfortunate if our sending what we thought was a conciliatory mail causes more flare-ups on the step-parenting board, and we are sorry once again if we got the tone wrong. Can we please ask that posters do think about taking a step back on this one, just to let the dust settle a bit, and then continue to post on each subject as it comes up, with our guidelines firmly in mind?

MNHQ

AmyMumsnet · 19/08/2014 10:34

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your reports. We are taking a look at the thread and in the meantime we'd be ever so grateful if you could all take a look at the talk guidelines and possibly step away for a bit if you feel yourself getting worked up.

Brew
MNHQ

AmyMumsnet · 19/08/2014 10:56

Hi everyone, apologies if the deletions appear inconsistent, it's because we're working through the thread and reports, not because we're trying to take sides or anything more sinister.

We're now going to suspend the thread to give us a chance to catch up and respond to people.

We're a bit concerned about the accusation that personal details have been gathered and posted somewhere on Mumsnet. If anyone wants to email us and give us a bit more information on this then please feel free to do so.

And Pag, I have received your email.

Phew!

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