Biological father

[nittya]

My 8 year old daughter has never known of her biological father.We broke up when in was pregnant and never saw him again after a 7-year relationship. I met my husband when my daughter was 14months and he has been an amazing father to her....My daughter is growing up and I know I need to tell her something but I don't have any idea of where to start from...I have been trying to touch on it…She has seen pictures and I have explained that this was mummy boyfriend before daddy came.... in previous conversations I have said 'mummy and you came home from the hospital and it was just the both of us for sometime than mummy met daddy....I know I need to tackle this matter so that I don't have any issues in her teenage years and just in case if he also shows up on my door step one day.... I would be grateful for suggestions on how to handle such a sensitive issue as she is just a happy girl and don’t want her to feel any different from sibling.

Thanks xx

Do it before she hits puberty and you both need to do it if your DH has been her father - otherwise she is different from her sister, shes sitting down with mum telling her dad isn't dad. Just make sure she knows it doesn't change anything and she is still part of the family. Prepare for awkward questions about her biological father though.

What about the legal implications if something happens to you? What happens to her then? Only making this point because my friend (who is sadly no longer with us after a car accident) never looked into this or made arrangements and now her eldest, although a little younger than your DD, is living with the parents of her biological father because they petitioned the court and the court ruled against my friends husband. She had never even met these people before and her brothers are living with their father who she called dad too. Her stepfather and brothers have not seen her since and she wasn't allowed to attend her mothers funeral either.

Oh my gosh that breaks my heart....Im going to contact family lawyers today and look at sitting her down at some point during the summer holidays may be before we go on holiday . I did look into legal implication some time ago and was advice that i need to give my husband parental responsibility and this can be done in local court....thanks so much xxx