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Stupid things that DSC do that annoy me/you

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alwaystryingtobeafriend · 07/07/2014 19:53

I know this is so daft because kids are innocent and don't realise they do stuff but one thing that's constantly bugs me is this:

We have a 4 seater couch and a 2 seater smuggler. I sit in the same spot every day as does DP but DSS sprawls out on the rest of the 3 seats and continually brushes his feet of my leg/hip. I know it's innocent but it just a bugs me - there is no need!!! He's not exactly tall for a 7 yr old. If I say anything DP has a go and says he's just being cute but it's bloody annoying!!

Why on earth does this even annoy me?!

Does anyone else's DSC do anything that bugs you but you just can't say because it's just not worth it?

Am I a bad person? Generally we have a good family life play games have fun etc so I know I'm not a wicked SM. Xx

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walde · 07/07/2014 19:59

DD asks me questions she already knows the answer to And then corrects me when I answer incorrectly. E.g DD: What's that noise? ME: It's a car outside I think. DD: No, it's a van.
It does my head in even though she's just being a cure little 2 year old!

TheWorldAccordingToJC · 07/07/2014 20:01

Other peoples children are exactly that .. Someone else's . And that is why it annoys you.

walde · 07/07/2014 20:01

Oh sorry, just realised you asked about step children. Can I still be annoyed by my own daughter?

FunkyBoldRibena · 07/07/2014 20:01

Breathe.

Treaclepot · 07/07/2014 20:13

Do you have your own children too? What I have found over years of being a step parent and then a parent is that all children are intensely annoying. But with sc you generally have to hold your tongue so as to not be a meany, thus holding all the annoyance inside.

whereas with your own children you can snap at them to stop being so fecking annoying and then give them a cuddle and apologise being a mardy git without feeling like you are evil as you would if you had enacted to a step child.

I could give you a very long list of things my step and own children that are annoying should you wish!

Treaclepot · 07/07/2014 20:13

Enacted = reacted

Elizabeth120914 · 07/07/2014 20:28

NEVER flushes the toilet, leaves floaters and wee's on the seat (Oh too!!)

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alwaystryingtobeafriend · 07/07/2014 20:44

Oh I feel like a bad person saying that but I think it's normal and like you say it's more of a kid thing than a sc thing. I don't have my own (yet!!) I'm sure they will be just a annoying at times.

I do live the kids though they are generally good. And like I say we get on for the most part. Xx

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thebluehen · 07/07/2014 21:28

Treacle pot, that's exactly it !

DC are just as annoying as dsc but so much more natural and easier to deal with!

My dsd aged 11 does the correction thing. Just like the can/car thing . She just had to be more superior and "right" over things that really don't matter. I must admit, I get tired of it easily and then just give up making conversation. :(

Dsd1 can't pick up her feet and literally shuffled around the house like an 80 year old.

Dsd2 is the least annoying, but she does have a habit of borrowing things and not putting them back.

Ds is very annoying and has always been a fidget, but I just snap at him, then laugh and joke about how annoying he is.

Kaluki · 08/07/2014 10:59

I don't know if its a girl thing as I just have boys but with DSD its the endless mindless chatter and asking questions over and over and over again.

For example "
Where are we going? When are we going there? How long will we be there? I can't wait to go there"
Five minutes later:
Where are we going? When are we going there? How long will we be there? I can't wait to go there"
And Repeat ALL DAY long!!!

yoyo27 · 09/07/2014 20:25

We have a large two seater sofa and a chair. The kids sit on the floor during the evening. DSD gets so stroppy about it!!!!! But it isn't fair that some have to sit on the floor and some don't. Plus there isn't room anyway!

MuttonCadet · 09/07/2014 20:27

Eating with their fingers.......(not finger food, not even close).

yoyo27 · 10/07/2014 08:56

Mutton....I once watched my DSS eat a fried egg (funny yolk!) with his fingers!!

I taught them there and then.....he was 7 so definitely old enough

yoyo27 · 12/07/2014 23:33

New one today. My eldest (10) is at a sleepover. My 8 year old and DSD (11) asked if they could share a room tonight. DSD said to my DD (8) "well I would much rather have you in with me".

I hate this kind of bitching. My daughter considers her to be a good friend, regularly puts her needs before her own. Yet DSD will bitch about her behind her back

Happybeard · 13/07/2014 20:04

Using my toiletries and leaving them out around the bath.

Stealing borrowing my underwear

Slurping VERY loudly when drinking tea

Managing to use the one thing we're running low on at a random time of the day. Eg. At 11pm The last two eggs that I was saving for breakfast.

Sitting down on the sofa really heavily so the whole things moves across the room

Jumping in my spot on same sofa as soon as I'm out of it

Saying "daddeeeeeeeee?" When she wants money.

Doing a weird kind of lean on my arm when explaining something

Walking in front of me in the street so I'm constantly tripping up on her then sliding in between me and her dad

I should probably stop there.

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alwaystryingtobeafriend · 13/07/2014 20:22

Haha happy beard you made me laugh tonight. I've had so many thing this weekend.

Walking in my room/ playing in my room whenever suits them- I've said to DP to ask them to stop but he says I should tell them.

Not washing hands properly after going to the loo!

Constant whining

The slurping noises at tea time then this clicking sound when we are just sat watching tv.

I got up and moved because it was annoying me and DP said I was overeating - could have killed him there and then haha.

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alwaystryingtobeafriend · 13/07/2014 20:23

Over reacting not overeating haha xx

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Happybeard · 13/07/2014 21:11

Hahaha stepchildren make you over eat as well!!

impatienceisavirtue · 13/07/2014 21:58

DSD will pretend to not know something or to have silly ideas when it's completely false and put on. She thinks it's cute and endearing. It's fucking not.

impatienceisavirtue · 13/07/2014 22:04

Seeing DH as a wallet.

DSS recently lost his iPhone (which we had given him in the first place). We replaced it. Before we did so we'd get 'when are we going phone shopping' calls. He never calls unless he wants something. The phone I sorted out was through my provider so needed unlocking to his network and he needed a new different sized sim. When his replacement sim came - we were both at work - we got many texts (through his mother's phone) nagging us to get it unlocked including ones that just said 'not happy, dad' 'my phone still is working why haven't you sorted it. They were all downright rude in tone and language and generally grabby. It takes up to seven days for them to send the unlock code. We don't control that. When he started sending shit like that I was half tempted to ring up my network and block the fucking thing.

AiringDirtyLaundry · 14/07/2014 14:19

Ugh, where do I start?

Sleeping in his clothes
Not washing his hands after using the toilet
Picking his feet
Never answering a yes/no question with an audible word (I loathe teen speak)
Refusing to eat anything he doesn't like

All of these things I can deal with, but most of all:

Never giving his dad a card (or even phone call) on his birthday, Xmas or Father's Day

Thankfully, he's a pretty awesome kid with some pretty minor annoying habits. Sadly, his attitudes about gratitude and saying thank you come from his mother. We've tried so hard to address this but I don't think we've made any progress with that :-(

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alwaystryingtobeafriend · 14/07/2014 15:24

Not washing hands is a particularly annoying one for me. We tell boy and girl to do it but I know they don't! It's not that - it's the germs they are spreading around the house as a result! I feel like I am constantly on at them but DP tells me to give them a break. Sorry for wanting a clean house and teaching your children to be clean!!

It a bloody disgusting habit to get into and I will continue to test them every time they come out the loo.

Last night DSS went for a no2 and I said did you wash your hands with soap and water? He growled at me (yes growled) and trotted back up to wash. Needless to say his hands held the banister on the way back from his initial visit to the loo. He is only 7 but come on! It's not hard to do!!

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Kaluki · 15/07/2014 12:27

HappyBeard - stealing your underwear
This weekend my DSS was sat picking his feet while watching TV and I had to leave the room (especially when he started eating the bits he'd picked off )
He also doesn't wash his hands or even wipe his bum most of the time and he often stinks of BO.
DP and his Mum are oblivious and if i mention it DP acts as if I've personally insulted him!!!

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