Underage kids and horror movies

[alwaystryingtobeafriend]

So, DSD (10) told me yesterday that she and her friend were up until 4am watching horror movies such as 'Carrie'.

I know these films aren't real but they do have adult language/themes and can be quite graphic.

I asked where her mum was and she was apparently in the other room.

I don't want to stick my nose in (again!) but I don't believe a young people should be watching stuff like that. I don't think my DP is too impressed either- it's not really with fighting with the ex about or is it?

I've not really mentioned much about it to DP so just looking for general views.

When kids are here they don't get to watch stuff like that but we will let dsd watch films rated 12 or 15 depending on the type of film. But we are there when they are being watched.

Am I just being a wicked step mum by not allowing her to watch gory blood and guts films?

Dont think its your place to say much Im afraid.
I have a dsd who is 10 and if I heard she was watching this, Id express my concern to my partner, her father, Id say what I thought but thats as far as Id go.
Also, shes 10 - youre allowing her to watch 12s and 15s so can hardly say too much!

I think it really depends on the child.

I was very strict with my DS until he was about 13 and then if I had watched it and approved it I let him watch it. I am a real wuss though and had many sleepless nights after watching horror films. He knows that once it is seen it can't be unseen.

Now at nearly 15 he will watch most things and it doesn't seem to bother him or give him sleepless nights - I still draw the line at certain things but his dad used to let him watch all sorts so there was little that I could do there.

My DSD is nearly 14 and will watch lots at her moms that I don't really agree with but can't do the really gory films as she is like me in the way that she can handle thrillers and the thought of violence but can't actually stand to see it IYSWIM.

DSS is nearly 10 and poos himself still at Doctor Who so he will probably never watch horrors bless him.

If you have little control and she is not bothered by it it really isn't worth the hassle but the first sleepless night you have as she is upset after watching something then it is your roblem and you DH should address with her mom.

I know I have a bit of a cheek but we never let her watch anything to gory or violent or with sexual references etc and come to think of it I can't remember if we have ever watched a 15 with her.

I know it's not my place to argue about it but I have told DP that I don't think she should be watching these kind of films.

I don't think she even understands the films to be honest and it's just so she can say she has seen them but I just don't like the idea of a 10 yr old watching a film for an 18 year old.

I just wasn't sure if I should be pushing DP to talk to her mum about it or not but I will leave alone an let DP make that call. Xx

Sounds like my DSDs mum. DSD can do whatever she wants to keep her quiet and always has done, like playing round their estate at 6 which DH wasn't happy about.

She had nightmares from watching paranormal activity when he was 11, that film scared me enough never mind a child.

Unfortunately there's not much you can do except mentioning it to our DP who can raise it with his ex but it probably won't make a difference, and also ban inappropriate films at your house.

Its a rubbish situation to be in but its not worth causing arguments over unless your DSD has had nightmares over it.

I watched the original Evil Dead when I was about 5 (I snuck downstairs and caught my uncle watching it) and it didn't do me any harm.

That being said, I wouldn't let any child of mine watch it (or anything equally as graphic) until they were into their teens, at which point even if you don't let them watch it at home they'll no doubt have that one friend who has an older brother who encourages them to watch it.

All you can do is set rules for your house. And yes, point out your concerns to your DP, but once you've made a case to him, I'd just leave it.

You certainly can, though, disallow them in your home.

I can remember dsd proudly telling me she watched child's play at 5 and how her aunty got them thrown out of Asda for being drunk...

Absolutely appalled as was OH but as above said not a lot you can do if ok with ex. I don't comment said it's was too scary for me- which it probably is at 32!!