I need your words of wisdom please

[FeelTheNoise]

Due to unforseen circumstances, DP and I are merging our families in tougher times than we had planned to. We are both single parents, and his DC (who I will refer to as SDC) is younger and significantly more emotionally vulnerable and distressed than my DC. SDC has been through so much and is a really lovely child, but has long shown very controlling traits, which have just rocketed due to horrible recent events.

So I will have my hands full!

Anyway, that's my background, my reason for this thread.

Please share with me your dos and don'ts, as light hearted or as serious as you wish.

Will they both be living there full time?

Yes they will, it's a big step for us all!

Well one thing I can think of os for you and dp to agree now on parenting styles. Things like what is acceptable, boundaries ect. And alway back each other up in front of the kids, if you don't agree, discuss it later but don't overrule the other.

That's something I feel so strong on, we have the same parenting styles and have been very supportive and in agreement of each others decisions. That's a good feeling

Yes I agree!

I've only found out since moving in and having our own children together that we differ massively on our approaches to parenting!!!! For example, my older children have always had a strict bedtime routine and as a result still happily go to bed at a good time, know when they're tired etc. whereas my DP would happily leave our 20 month old daughter to stay up until she literally flakes out!!!!! Other arguments have occurred when he has told off my children for something, but then not his for the same thing, him being allowed to tell off my children but I'm not allowed to say anything to his!

Definitely make sure all kids are treated equally and try and have one on one time with them all and good luck! No offence but in my experience you're going to need it!

His years a NRP did leave him with a few Disney traits, but the transition to single parent did make him realise that he could not continue with the same intensity of treats and attention spread out throughout the week! Otherwise I could not have coped with that