Sc constantly fighting..

[TheMumsRush]

I know all siblings do it but it 's non stop. Winding each other up or messing around, I and it always goes to far and is really annoying to be around. They don't listen, or if they do they start up again 5 mins later. I don't want to be around it, I have ds (baby) all day and I don't want to listen to them bickering/wrestling in the evening.

My DSC are constantly fighting! DP sisceplines but then tye defend each other and pals for next wee while then it strts again!! I think it's just what kids do. I try my best to tune out of the arguments SC have because they are usually just silly and quite often I have found because they are bored - despite the cupboard full of games and toys and things to do!! I don't really have any advice though - just want to say I sympathise (minus having a baby) xx

What does your dh do about it?

He tells them to stop as he finds it just as hard going, but he also says he doesn't want to be on at them too much

See my DP is always on at them- it annoys him more than me I think. I know he doesn't want to be hard on them either but kids need boundaries and to learn how to behave. Maybe DP needs a wee nudge just to go a wee bit further with the telling offs. We ban computer/ tv/ iPods - send to bed(a personal favourite) or we seperate them. One in the room one downstairs. Just for 15-20 minutes till they calm down a bit. Xx

It's like this in my house OP, I have 4 dsc and my first DS is due in 8 weeks.
I've never known kids to fight/argue like it, drives me insane. They don't listen and DP isn't very good at discipline. I hate being around it too, especially as they have no respect for me or my house.
How are they with your DS?

They broke something of mine using it as a weapon. One of them did get told off, the other made a swift exit to the garden. I have pushed DH about it, had our own row about it. He says he think it's their way of rebelling and having a bit of control. I said I don't know how he knows that as he has no clue how they behave for mum. I wasn't around this weekend and he said they were worse!

Thay love ds very much

He's opting out of parenting them.

It's very easy to blame the other household for behaviour based on how lax or strict the RP is if you don't want to face what is going on under your own roof.

I get blamed for all sorts of things by xh and his gf because they won't face how they are treating the children, and subsequent behaviour being down to that. They have absolutely no idea how I parent because they aren't here and won't talk to me (they'd rather make things up).

That doesn't help you though. It's an awful position to be in, having DSC and a partner who just won't step up and set some boundaries or deal with things. And also not that easy to do anything to remove yourself and leave them to it when you have a little one to look after. Wish I could make more suggestions.

I don't blame the other household. I blame dh

My DSD8 and DS5 fight non-stop too. It's so disheartening.

We do what alwaystryingtobeafriend has suggested; confiscate whatever toy they're fighting over, stop any activity they can't 'play nicely' and if they're still going; we send one or both of them to their rooms.

I feel sorry for our two younger children who have to listen to constant screaming / crying / wailing / shouting. I've told DSD and DS they're going to be doing a lot of sports camps this summer!

When my SC were young whenever they came they were loud and very untidy. I later found out that at home only one toy was allowed downstairs and their mum was anal about tidyness. I guess they were just letting off steam and I was glad they felt comfortable at our house.

I know Themumsrush, sorry if it came across like that. I was agreeing with you, that he can look anywhere else (you included) to lay blame, rather than consider his own actions.

Chief, I see what you mean now. Thanks ladies, this is my safe place to rant :)