Good weekend being a stepparent.

[riverboat1]

I hesitated to post this in case it seemed like boasting, but then decided to anyway as I think it's important for the board to show some of the good side of stepparenting as well as the difficulties...

I've just had a really nice weekend. On Saturday I looked after DSS9 all day on my own, as DP had an all-day stag do...the stag being his ex's fiancé! I was fine to look after DSS, but not really expecting it to be a fun day, as he is a child who needs quite a bit of 'entertaining', doesn't really know how to amuse himself on his own. But we ended up having a really nice day, he even enjoyed doing the supermarket shop and asked if he could come with me when I do it next time! (all because I let him push the trolley a bit and bought him a packet of tic tacs!)

He was really good during the whole day, very easygoing, we played some games together but he was fine playing on his own for a few hours too while I got on with some other stuff. He was really well behaved, and I actually appreciated his company. I think the last time I had him on my own from breakfast until bedtime was a couple of years ago when he was really hard work in terms of wanting to be doing stuff with me every single minute and I remember the day seemed so long and such a drag...I really think that the older he gets the more I enjoy his company as a person in his own right, he's getting to be really funny and droll.

Then today we celebrated DSS's birthday, with his mum and fiancé, me and DP and various other family members and godparents. Had such a nice day, lovely barbeque, great company. I really love that we all get on because I hardly have any real family of my own and these occasions make me feel like I'm part of a bigger family unit, albeit a blended one.

Being a stepparent is still hard at times, as someone who hasn't (yet) chosen to have kids of my own it's a struggle sometimes adapting my own life to one that is child-centred every other weekend and during the holidays. But there are parts of it that are really lovely too.

Anyone else had a good weekend being a stepparent?

I couldn't not post - Riverboat1 what a lovely post! We've had a lovely barbeque today too. So much so, DH has actually fallen asleep on the couch. I'll leave him be this once though, with it being father's day and the fact he cooked all the barbeque ;)

Reading posts like yours are so refreshing!

Yep great one here too. After a couple of years of big changes in dsds life, things have been settled for the past year and she has chilled right out. She has been a total delight this weekend, and we've had a lot of fun out in the sunshine - and not a penny spent

Aww that's lovely hun!!!

Glad you had a good weekend

Another good one here too - it must be the sun!
We had a BBQ today and my parents came over. We actually felt like one family for a change!

I was away this weekend so didn't see my DSD and I missed her smiling little face. Glad you all had lovely weekends :)

Congratulations everyone! I was going to post the same, had a really successful weekend with our blended family too. I took my dsds out with my ds, without my dp. They were great and just the whole weekend was a success.
Results all round!

That's lovely. I wish our's had been as successful, but still it's good to read things like this and know it is within reach, in time... Hopefully!

Ah what a lovely post. So happy for you, makes such a difference when all the parents get on and really put the kids first. x

We had a lovely weekend too! Do and I took our five(none together) camping and to the beach, the weather was fantastic and we had a great time canoeing, crabbing and fishing. Even my 13 yr old dd seemed to enjoy jerself and managed to behave and not ruin everything for the others! She's back to her normal miserable self today mind, but that's ok as she is going to her dads so I can MN in peace!