I have a 13 year old step daughter. And we have issues.
She only ever rings when she wants something, other than that she doesn't answer the phone. She only comes when something has been organised that is fun, I'm not against doing things for her but we can't afford much now I have dd and am a sahm.
She cancelled a weekend as we said we can't afford to do what she wanted (talking £100 here) and then wanted over £1000 for a school trip. She said unless we pay she can't go. We're paying, I don't know how I really don't.
She cancelled this weekend as her other family are going roller skating and we hadn't planned anything.
It's really hurting my dh that all she wants from him costs. I'm sick of it.
When she's here she's lovely, she never acts like a classic spoiled brat screaming or anything. She plays beautifully with dd, generally leaves her room tidy, puts stuff in the dishwasher and things.
How do we tackle the fact that dad is seen as a wallet to be opened and nothing more? There is no help from her mother's side as they seem to encourage it