The weekend starts here, terrific!

[BuzzLightbulb]

Stupidly mentioned what plans were for coping with DSD next week and all hell broke loose.

Seems I'm responsible for DSD not apologising because I wasn't here when the conversation took place!

And I can't hold her behaviour against her until last weekend when she was officially told it wasn't ok to shag in our house, or come home when she fancied. Apparently until you tell a 16 yr old that, it never enters their mind, and she doesn't need telling because its not as if they're going to be at it all the time.

So as usual, all the late night talking, coming to an agreed set of rules, was for nothing. Because now we don't know whether she's had the same house rules this week at her dads so it would be unreasonable to enforce them here.

I cannot understand that thought process, maybe it's because I'm not her mum?

I cannot understand the thought process that decides something is wrong and then does nothing about it.

Can anyone explain?

Buzz I know a lot of your problems stem from DSD but I think your own root is your DP and how she sees you in the relationship . A lot of your problems are from how your DP is with regards to these issues and her lack of considering you and others in the scenario - not just what she says goes.

I understand DSD is her daughter but your a family unit so both adults should be trying to work it on that basis.

Hobin

I think you're right, I've had the 'stop making this all about you' thrown at me when I've mentioned DSD hasn't yet apologised to me.

Apparently I've missed my chance, whereas I think the chance is still there for DSD to take. DP thinks its too late.

Can you just detach from her, and ban her BF from entering the house? It does sound like your DP is avoiding something.