Hooray I'm feeling positive! Finally dp's EOW has rolled around and my dc are also away on a break with family. So, I've taken the initiative and planned my weekend already with my friends and family without waiting for dp to ask me to spend time with him and his dc, or worrying about why he isn't or waiting around for him to fit me in. The two weeks between the EOW's really are bliss with him and my dc, so I'm gonna focus the future on that. And his EOW's, well he can have them. They've been such a source of stress because of the behaviour and attitude of dp's dc and dp's disney/guilt parenting that it was destroying me (I was letting it).
I feel such a load off and strangely he asked me to spend a night with them, which he never does and the old me would have jumped at it, would have been grateful for it, but there would have been a shitstorm at some point and it's never anyones fault but mine, not his, never their's... But I have plans, so basically I can't! Have totally accepted that they don't want a relationship with me and made peace with it. Feel so much better in myself and reading those books and talking on MN really has helped. :)
Watch this space for disgruntled boyfriend next week...! I will remind him that two weeks ago, he asked me to put up with whatever from his dc and give him a break. So basically he can put up with whatever and I'll enjoy my weekend and look forward to seeing him Sunday night...