DS called him daddy...

[sallyroute66]

My DS aged 3, referred my partner as Daddy today... more than once. Totally off his own back.
DD called it him last year, but their father briefly came back into their lives, and he put a stop to it after giving me a mouthful. Which I understand.. but prior to that he hadn't seen them for nearly two years, and it wasn't pushed on the children, it was their own feelings.

I don't know how I feel. I am happy for DS, that he feels he has that special bond, and connection - especially since his dad is... AWOL.

What do I do? Do I stop it or let him carry on? He knows DP isn't his father, he knows about and of his bio-dad.
DS is very very close to DP.

Dp and I are solid that doesn't worry me...
My biggest fear is their bio-dad...

Can they call him a similar name, that isn't his actual name, or Daddy? Like Daddy John (or whatever his name is).

My children do that to my fiancé, mainly because we don't want our toddler to start calling him by his name!

Does it matter if he calls DP daddy in your house or out with you?

You're hardly likely to be in the same space as his bio dad are you so it's not going to be confusing.

Two dad's? How do same sex parents do this? I'm sure they don't call one mum and one dad!

Daddy John seems slightly artificial but at the end of the day it's just a form of address so its whatever you would feel comfortable other people hearing I suppose?

If bio dad is not going to be a feature in his life and DP is, then will he grow to feel slightly 'different' if he refers to the only father he knows in a different way to other kids?

My DSD calls both her DF and DSF Daddy when she is with them separately, she is very close to her DSD, when we are all together then she calls them Daddy MrWestEast and Daddy stepdads real name.
It works for her, so it works for us. She knows who her bio dad is, but she knows both her dads love her unconditionally.

If his biological father is that bothered then perhaps he ought to make an effort to be in his kids lives?!

If your son has made that choice om his own and your dp is happy with it then leave him be

It's about what he feels comfortable with.

If their real dad doesn't bother then it's up to them what they call your dp who is their stable father figure. Especially as your ds won't remember a time when you were together.

It would probably upset him if you asked him not to as he wouldn't understand why not, so unless your dp is uncomfortable with it then let him.

I was just saying on another thread that my dsd has asked if she can call me mummy when our baby is born (I'm pregnant) i told her she can call me what she wants as long as she's happy. she lives with us and is unfortunate enough to have a mum who doesn't give a shit about her so it's up to her.

Dsd calls me MummyPig sometimes, Pig at other times. She has a mum, she lives with her, etc. At times she has called me Mummy, and tbh I didn't feel comfortable as you only get 2 parents. BUT if her mum wasn't around and she wanted to, them that would be different. In your situation, op, I would say if your dp and ds are happy, go with it.

How do same sex parents do this?

I know a gay couple who are Daddy and Papa to their DC.

Don't agree with this at all, sorry. A 3 year old cannot possibly be described as making an informed choice, he's just copying what others do and trying to make sense of his world. When a child is old enough, that's a different thing.

I think you should let him call your partner whatever makes him (your DS) feel most comfortable.