Its a long story, ive known dsd 10 years, she is 14, dh and her mum have never talked, we've had lots of problems over the years mainly due to everyone treating her like a victim, we've now got 2 dcs 4 and 2 and keep me manically busy so i let dh focus on her, ive been told by him countless times he doesn't want my opinion.
anyhow we are separating, due to his infidelity over the last year with a prostitute, whilst i was clearing his stuff i found a letter from her posted this week saying she didn't want to see him anymore she said he didn't answer phone, didn't pay pocket money on time etc, she slated our house and our rules and said she was upset we didn't have her school photos up, have never even seen one, there are also things i have told him numerous times he should do like take her on holiday decorate her room ec and stupid things lik she didn't like my dcs using her pens without asking. The thing that pissed me off is she said dhs mum is upset we don't visit them and that i have isolated him from his friends and family, i am livid! His mum has always seen me as the other woman and after inviting them to our house numerous times we gave up when invite never got returned i have had one meal in their house in 10 years, dh said t me "they don't like me so they wont like you" as for his friends ive asked loads of times if can get to know them and their families but they are drinking buddies who have spent many a night crashed on my living room floor but their wives and girlfriends have never bothered to get to know me because of the tittle tattle gossip they prefer to do.
i know its not an issue now because dh is moving out soon and i will never be involved with her again but it pisses me off I'mbeing blamed for this situation when i cant answer, ive a good.mind to contact her mother with a few home truths as in sure dh will lie to protect himself and blame me i am so angry!