Things that irritate me about Disney Dads

[theworkofsatan]

The other thread about "things that irritate" made me think of things that irritate me about the way DP is when his DD is in our house. I'm sure you will be able to add to this but I'll start:-

1. Going deaf when his DD is rude either to him, me or my DS. For example this weekend she asked my DS why he was such a dick. She is 11 and he is 9. My DP just sat there. I told her not to speak to my DS like that as it isn't nice and I am his parent not her.

1. Wheedling around her when she is in a mood. "Oh please talk to me, oh please, oh please..." Ad nauseum. She continues to blank him/give one word answers. He sits on the sofa trying to cajole her into talking to him. I go out.

1. Wheedling around her to get her to do ANYTHING. "Oh pretty please will you bring down the twenty-seven empty bottles of juice from your bedroom? Her response? "I'll think about it". Him - "Oh pretty please, I'm asking you nicely"

Does the mini wife syndrome count as Disney?

Vomit. I think little wife syndrome is Disney really..

I hate when DH agrees that something she's asked for is unacceptable then after the initial "no" backtracks and finds reasons to justify doing whatever it is and bounding over to dsd to tell her she can in fact have/ do whatever it is. To which she will be unimpressed anyway.

She doesn't even have to bat the lashes or beg for things anymore, she just asks and daddy provides. Even if she hasn't been here or even spoken to him in weeks.

I think for LW syndrome to work effectively and flourish, Disney Dad must be in collusion. It's like it has it's own little Eco-system to feed from.

This will only go one way, OP. You're wasting your time. Sorry. Some dad's seem only too happy to be treated badly by their daughters. I really do think it's a dad/daughter thing. I have never seen it the other way around.

I just cannot understand this type of "parenting". It's like he wants to be mates with her rather than be her father. And it isn't doing her any favours whatsoever. Because he has never, ever told her off (even mildly) as time has gone on she has become more and more arrogant and rude.

I understand that this is not really her fault and that he has caused it. He does seem to be quite embarrassed when she is rude or refuses to do anything when she is in our home but then he also refuses to do anything about it. It's like she is in charge of him and he's supposed to be a grown man.

He just says that we have different styles of parenting but I don't agree with that at all. He doesn't parent, he creeps around her and walks on egg shells. It's like she is a special visitor and nothing is expected of her, even basic manners or communication.

Welcome to MY world...! You have a choice. You can be doing this in 20 yrs. Or not. Between his ex-wife and my husband, they have created a manipulative, selfish and nasty little madam who for all her education and good upbringing has not a scrap of kindness in her. Harsh, I know. Truthful....? Yes. Mine is 20 yrs old. She should know better but doesn't. And her dad is powerless. She piles in the guilt and he sucks it up.

Oh, how disney dad's act like slaves for their dc... How they respond to 'get me' 'put this' 'do this' 'I want' 'No!' 'I hate that' 'God, you're so stupid' 'You don't know/can't do anything !' with COMPLIANCE! My kids wouldn't last 2 minutes talking to me (or each other) like that.

Never heard the expression Disney dad but describes my DH down to the ground.

My kids are on BB at their dads. I get the strops! Does that make me a disney mum ? >_

Hahaha. DP is the same. Dsd10 is definitely miniwife. I just go out & leave them to it now.

DP is learning slowly from my helpful hints, ( Corrie, Jenna, Lloyd), + the fact that as DSD10 gets older he does find certain things uncomfortable. Rubbing his nipples, asking him to rub hers, ( dp was horrified), following him when he is getting changed from work, etc...

I'm just going to let it run. Eventually it will sort itself out.

At asking him to rub her nipples!!!

She is ten and trying to rub his nipples and asking him to rub hers? What on earth is happening to her at her mother's?

That is really disturbing.