New Baby - dp wondering about confusing ds

[julezboo]

Hiya

Just after a bit of advice, I have been with my dp for just over a year, we are 15 weeks pregnant. It will be his first child and my second.

My ds who is 4, doesnt see his Daddy, (sad long story) Basically he had another baby and isnt interested in my ds anymore.

Anyway my ds calls my dp by his first name, dp asked me last night what the new baby will call him, I know its a long way off but I assumed it would be Daddy seeing as thats what he is. But then he said wont ds get confused?

Now im in a bit of a panic, new baby will be calling dp daddy, ds will continue to call him Paul. They both get on great together, its like havig 2 kids already in the house sometimes

My ds will be almost 6 Im guessing by the time new baby starts talking, how do we explain this too him, How do we deal with it. Im afraid ds is gonna feel left out, new baby will have a mummy and a daddy at home ds will only have a mummy. Im getting myself worked up just thinking about it... Help!! Has anyone been in this situation before??

jules suspect that baby will copy his/her brother and both will call dp Paul. My DD is nearly 4 and when her older step brother are visiting she sometimes calls me by my first name as that is what they call me. Why don't you ask DS if he would prefer to use Daddy or maybe Daddy Paul?

By the time he's 6 he'll be old enough to choose! I was also abandoned by my birth dad and chose to call my step dad dad at a similar age, had been calling him by his christian name before but got jealous of my much older evil step sisters and asked if i could call him dad, have done ever since.

My sister has a dd. She is 9. Her bio dad walked out on them when niece was just 1. Sis had a new partner since her dd was 2. She called him Barney (a pet name) from she started to know him.. They got married last week... last week she started calling him daddy It's lovely He is so much more her daddy than the other guy who never sees her!

thanks for suggestions!

If Im honest I dont think its wise for him to call dp daddy. As much as I would want him to my ds's real dad flits in and out of his life and would stir up much trouble. I know i shouldnt be letting it happen and maybe now we live 200 miles away it will fizzle out for good (awful thing to say but in my opinion he doesnt deserve to be called daddy. I like the idea of Daddy Paul though! He calls his own dad Daddy Ryan. Will see what happens x x

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