How do you manage juggling visiting DSCs and your own baby?

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I admit I find this difficult -- I often want some time alone with our little toddler but also don't want the DSCs (tween & teen) to feel ostracised either. How do you balance being tired mum of the little one with being fun/interested SM to the others?

Anyone have any ideas/solutions/experience?

Do they live with you f/T?

Watching with interest I have a 3 week ds and 5 yr old dss really struggling with dss had a good relationship before baby come, now feel I have no time for him and feel awful for it !x

On weekends your partner should take them out to visit grandma, do some chores or a hobby outside the home. If your partners parents live near they could even look after them for a day so you can spend some time with your partner & baby. Really don't want the poor kid to feel they are being pushed out though so best make it a parent and child day.