Glorified babysitter rides again.....

[entersandmum]

Hmmm. ExW books & pays for concert, informs DP 2 days later DSD10 will be staying tonight.

DP agrees, waits till 1 day before to tell me. Does not mention 4hr gym session previously arranged or meet up with mates.

I say OK, but am working late and have a meeting with after school club about DD4, please start dinner.

Come in tonight.....nothing on for dinner, muddy footprints in kitchen, hallway full of shite & DP / DSD10 are sat watching tv.

DS15 had done his chores and I had collected DD4 at the meeting.

DP spent 20 mins in the kitchen telling me to F. Off because I was upset he hadn't started dinner. Then said he and DSD10 were going out & promptly went to bed 'with a headache'.

It's weird how I actually made enough for DSD10 & DP & how I'm not blazing with anger. Almost like zen state of disappointment!

DP has now f**ked off to the gym, with his head ache & his meet and greet. Had to text him for DSD10 bedtime as it does change depending on his mood and he forgot to let me know. He will probably be back around midnight.

I think it bothers DP now more than me - he finds it stifling and unnatural but doesn't like to push her away! It seems more inappropriate as she gets older too.

H

The thing is that you don t really know what has happened before. You have got dp side of the story only.This little girl may have been a pawn for years in her parents dis functional relationship.Her role may have been comforter to either or both parents.What is being judged as inappropriate behaviour and I'm not denying that it is odd may be that little girls default setting during times of stress,I believe that she is Probobly a very confused stressed little person who is trying to keep her world together the only way she knows how.It sounds like she needs to learn about normal rows and what happens afterwards in a more healthy way or she will become a very very vulnerable teen.Please don t think I'm making this your job but recognising that this little girl is not doing it to get at you rather it is a bit of a defence mechanism may allow you to see it differently.Your partner on the other had sounds like a cocklodging dick who needs to be shown the door.