Struggling to see the point of this overnight stay

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DH mentioned this morning that DSS will be staying over tonight. We don't normally have mid-week contact as he lives too far away but DSS's mum is apparently nearby over half term.

All fair enough, except that both DH and I work and he is doing pretty long hours at the moment ie not normally home until about the time DSS normally goes to bed and leaves pretty early, around the time the DCs are normally up. I wouldn't mind DSS being dropped off here to have early evening with me and the other DCs but I know his mum will insist that DH picks him up from wherever she is. And the other DCs are all in childcare from first thing tomorrow while DH and I work.

So, is there any point DSS coming over here, literally just to sleep and to give DH extra pick up and drop off duties (it's not a pleasant commute so they won't get any quality time there)? Do other people have mid-week overnights on this basis?

DP picks him up from after school club, they have a 45-60 minute drive to our house

45-60 minute chat time too :)

Pussycat - yes, but in reality DSS plays games on DP's phone or watches cartoons on DP's tablet on every car journey!

Once we were talking about how we might move closer to DSS's mum's house one day, and DSS said he didn't want us to as he wouldnt be able to play on the phone/tablet as much! (Its only allowed in the car).

This overnight isn't about giving his mum a break as she has another (much more demanding) child with her partner anyway. It came about because DSS said he wanted to spend more time at our house/with his dad.

As I said, I wouldnt ever suggest stopping this overnight just because I think its a lot of faff on all parts for minimal contact. DSS is happy, DP doesnt complain about the driving/leaving work early, fine. Its not for me to intervene, in my view.

riverboat that's how I used to feel about DSS's mid week visits: it looked like a complete faff for DH/DSS, but didn't really impact on me, so I left them to it.