Well if anyone has followed my thread back in December you will know that after nearly 6 yrs together my P and I decided to go our separate ways. The split was initiated by me after his constant negativity towards my 2 DS - and that's putting it mildly.
I struggled through Christmas - my boys were with their dad Christmas eve/day and it was hard without them but I have a wonderful family who were very supportive. I had a great new year with some good friends.
January has been hard. We've had to live together in the house which has been very stressful. He refuses to lower the asking price as he wants as much equity out of the sale as he can. I sold the car as it was too large and expensive which he didn't like - but the car & finance was in my name and my solicitor says he doesn't have a leg to stand on regarding the car!
3 weeks after our split my exP met someone and has been seeing her ever since. She has 4 kids - the youngest of whom is 3/4. This has hurt me greatly and made a mockery of the past 6 years and his 'supposed' love for me. I'm disgusted by his behaviour to be honest. It's pathetic and further proof that he isn't the decent man I thought he was. What message is that sending to his own DD? Move from one relationship to another at the drop of a hat!
My 2 DS have been great, so supportive. they seem much happier and don't seem to squabble quite as much.
He is now making noises about moving out and renting somewhere closer to his work (and girlfriend probably). he has no friends here, never made any which is also strange! Infact he has NO friends really at all!
I have learnt a great deal about step-parenting/families/relationships and men over the past few years. I will never own property with a man again or take out any sort of financial agreement. I can't say that I will never live with a man again, as I may change my mind but I certainly wouldn't jump into it all so quickly.
Thank you for letting me post on here, so wish I'd found you sooner!