Maintenance changes

[steppyhen]

hi please can anyone offer any advice. Currently have dss 3 nights a week and pay half for swimming lessons etc. Dh managed to get loads overtime with his job up unitl Sept which has now stopped leaving us very short. I am now 8 months pregnant and just used the maintenance calculator and it shows we will be paying much more then we need to be. We are really going to struggling on Dh wage with no overtime and my stat maternity pay. How does dh approach this subject with dss mum as he is really worried he will rock the boat or do we just keep paying the same and struggle ourselves?

using the calculator how much would he have to pay if he didn't have dss 3 nights per week?

If you can afford to pay that I would email and explain that his income has dropped and acording to the calculator he should only be paying x but will pay her y instead but can no longer afford to contribute to swimming lessons etc.

how skint is she?

i could not tell you, she seams to be well supported from new partner they have just had new baby though.

maybe iabu thinking about it, we pay £130 a month and its to drop down to £98 its not alot but when our outgoings are more then what we have coming in it would help.

I would get dh to speak to ex and explain the situation and give her a month or 2 warning that you will be dropping her money.

yeah i think i will suggest that to him rather then springing it on her. I'm sure she will understand just don't want dss to suffer.

Whatever you decide please give her notice. My exp caused a lot of financial trouble for me by not letting me know when he was reducing the child support. Im still trying to recover from the charges i have incurred from him reducing 7 times last year with no notice.

Do you mean currently he is paying more than what the CSA say he should pay as a minimum and now his overtime has stopped and you are having a baby you can't afford to pay that much?

If so, then he should definitely talk to his ex. Explain the circumstances. I'm sure as she has just has a new baby too she will understand the costs involved.

If you have DSS 3 nights a week you have child related costs for him too. Does your partner pay half for other things like clothes, school shoes etc or just swimming lessons?

Is it not if you have dss more than 2 nights a week he shouldn't be paying cuz he still takes him and pays for him when he's at yours so really he is paying twice cuz he is kinda co parenting with her

No rach it's not.

Ath ok sorry my mistake