Looking for some nice advice

[motherofanearlyfouryearold]

My teenage sd's mum is critically ill in hospital. Its touch and go whether or not she will survive. Sd refuses to have anything to do with me. However, i want to do something i just don't know where to start.
I have bought a blank card.
I want her to know how sad i am and how much i would like to help her at the moment but don't know where to start. Please lovely stepmums can you help me? X

is the card for your step daughters mum? or your step daughter?

For my step daughter, at the moment.
I want her to know from me that im sad for her and want her to know she can come to us for help. Xx

I'd be very careful about contact at this stage, let your DH reach out. I would be concerned that she might interpret any contact from you as trying to take over her mums role when her mum is critically ill.

(I know that this isn't your intention at all). I hope that she is okay.

I would avoid referring to you and dh as us. Let him reach out in his own way and send your card from you alone and just let her know you are there if she needs you.

I agree that the card should just come from you.

I would say less is more, just a brief "Thinking of you" or something.
Try not to be too gushy, just let her know you are there for her in a separate way to her Dad.
How sad.