sorry this might be long
picked dsc up yesterday for the week and dss (10) kept asking me if I like him, I kept reassuring him that of course I do, was a bit puzzled about why he kept asking as we've always got on great (been in his life for 4 years) but assumed he's mum or grandparents had been stirring again and didn't press him.
have had a nice day today although dss been a bit clingy and just been chatting to dsd (14) about various things when she announces that mums new boyfriend keeps asking them if I really do like them as he thinks I'm just nice to them because I want to be with their dad and that I probably really think they are a nuisance which is why we only see them in school holidays.
I am furious, this man meet the children on the 7th of June and moved into their home on the 9th of June and has caused various upsets to both children since then, I have never met the man but have always tried to be positive about him and felt we probably were on the same side, what with us both being step-parents and all, I have defended him to dp when things have been tricky and have encouraged the children to be polite to him and he is making me out to be some evil step mother.
now dp and his ex don't get on and she can be difficult so I have no doubt she is telling him 'her side' of things and leaving out important facts like we live the other end of the country and used to do eow but traveling for 4 hours after school on a Friday and 4 hours on a Sunday before school on Monday was to much for the children so we agreed on us having them every school holiday which the children are happy with (we do travel up and stay in a hotel the months there is no holidays) we also have them bank holiday weekends.
I've always got on great with both my dsc and am really upset that this man has caused my lovely dss to doubt our relationship I just can't understand why he would do it!
dsd said that when he said it to her she told him to "jog on because I'm better than he is" 